To Hold Back or Give in to The Force?

soyea on 13/01/2017 - 23:41

Hi All

Need your advice, my daughters birthday is late Feb and her dream gift of an iPhone 7 Plus I have already saved, sourced and in possession off. My own impatience says to give it to her now, whereas the missus is adamant not to give it to her till her birthday. My own impatience is driving me nuts hiding it from her. Also she has studied hard, been an outstanding person just makes me want to give it right away.

What is right to wait or to give it to her right away. your advice is appreciated.

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  • cheapisgood on 13/01/2017 - 23:48
    +7

    I'll wait until its her birthday. Can consider it as her birthday present and a present for doing well in studies. 2 birds in 1 stone

    But ultimately its you and your wife choice on when to give it. But my thinking is, if you give it to her now, would she expect anything for her birthday present?

    • StewBalls on 13/01/2017 - 23:57

      This.

      Depending on her individual likes, you could buy her a small 'interim' present, maybe flowers &/or box of chocolates etc…and tell her what you just told us! :)

  • cypher67 on 13/01/2017 - 23:57

    Hold old is she? I recon the most my parents spent on me was a Nintendo 64 that I had to share with my 2 brothers ….

    • soyea on 14/01/2017 - 00:02

      17

    • [Deactivated] on 14/01/2017 - 00:15
      +5

      Hold old is she?

      These days kids get cars, phones, and a holiday.

      • cwongtech on 14/01/2017 - 00:16
        +5

        And 2.5 million later, house and smashed avo.

        • scrimshaw on 14/01/2017 - 13:00
          +1

          Make Avocado Great Again

          hastag MAGA

  • cwongtech on 14/01/2017 - 00:25
    +5

    What is right to wait or to give it to her right away. your advice is appreciated.

    Give her a troll present first, like an old iphone 4 with a post-it that says +3
    Like this
    Film it :D

  • Marcsie on 14/01/2017 - 08:37
    +2

    Just can't believe that you can't make a simple decision like this, lol

    • Baebs on 14/01/2017 - 11:21

      Stinks of troll.

  • [Deactivated] on 14/01/2017 - 08:42
    +1

    Do you give out your Xmas pressies before Xmas?

  • itajac on 14/01/2017 - 08:57
    +2

    Listen to your wife, give it to her on her birthday, it will intensify the excitement and anticipation.If the phone is itching in your hands, then give it to your wife to hide or keep until your daughters b'day.

    In the meantime I would second what Stewballs suggested and maybe you could also include a handwritten letter to her, expressing how much you love her and how proud you are of all her achievements.

    Being a daughter and also having one too, I know she will absolutely cherish something personalised from her dad,this she will be able to keep forever.

    Hope she has a wonderful birthday and you sound like an amazing Dad.Congratz to both of you.

  • nxllson on 14/01/2017 - 09:33

    If you give it now, the birthday wouldn't be so special to her. It's a month early if you give it in mid Jan, a bad idea on my end. Do not spoil her before her birthday, but give it to her probably exactly the start of the day as a surprise (12:00AM). You seem like an amazing dad, who respects their daughter's studies; but if the phone is given way too early there is even a chance she'll get too distracted by it and the studies will decrease overtime.

  • HardQuiz on 14/01/2017 - 10:24
    -1

    If she studied hard and behaved well and you are truly proud of her for that reason and want to reward it, then give it now. This well make it mean more to her because you could've waited till her birthday.

    You are encouraging her to do good in life.

    If you give it on her birthday it will be just, meh, a birthday gift.

    If my parents gave me a long-waited gift (NOT on my B'day) and told me it is because my good study results, this will make me over the moon and study harder to make them proud.

    Now, on her birthday, give her another gift, a cover for her new iPhone? or couple of iTunes cards to compliment the iPhone.

    EDIT: wrote this half sleepy, excuse any spelling or grammar errors

    • RockyRaccoon on 14/01/2017 - 10:32
      +4

      Wouldn't studying hard be a reward in itself?

      The real life lesson here is to study to empower yourself, rather than do it to please others.

    • retiredfeline on 14/01/2017 - 15:24

      EDIT: wrote this half sleepy, excuse any spelling or grammar errors

      Congratulations on speling the word grammer correctly. :)

      Now that I've overruled autocorrect it's going to accept those misspellings on my subsequent writing. :(

  • RockyRaccoon on 14/01/2017 - 10:25
    +3

    My assumption is she has a phone already.

    The wife says wait.

    Your Impatience says give it to her now

    So who are you doing this for?

    You, your wife or your daughter?

    If you give it now you are satifying your urges plus also what will you give her in 6 weeks time? And what example does that give her?

    Hard to be a parent, but really you are her role model.

    Being a parent isnt just giving gifts, its also about giving insight.

    As I say to my kids, I will be pissed if they make mistakes I made. That means I didn't transfer to them the wisdom I gained from those.

    Their mistakes are their's 😀

    • [Deactivated] on 14/01/2017 - 10:29
      +2

      You, your wife or your daughter?

      Imagine the selfies she can take with an iPhone 7 compared to her current phone. Her dad must be so excited for that.

    • retiredfeline on 14/01/2017 - 10:35
      +2

      +1, he used the phrase

      My own impatience

      twice. OP should give it to his wife for safekeeping if he can't exercise deferred gratification.

  • voteoften on 14/01/2017 - 12:10

    Congratulations on raising such a marvellous child! I like the idea of giving it now and then giving her something small on her birthday. But I wouldn't wait to give her a protective cover until her birthday. Maybe when you give it to her, now or later, you could take her out to lunch and to buy a cover together. (She may not like the one you buy and you want it to be an effective cover.)

    I really like the idea of a hand written note telling her how proud you are of her, how amazing she is and the impact she has made on your life and your family's life.

    Well done and thanks for raising such a great citizen.

  • Mumbles on 14/01/2017 - 13:37
    +1

    I'm more pragmatic than sentimental so I'd give the daughter the iPhone now. Late February means 1.5 months of use that the phone isn't getting. That's 1.5 months less of Manufacturer warranty and less chances of fixing defects.

    That's also 1.5 months of depreciation. This is an extreme example but imagine buying the latest smartphone for $1000, kept it in a box unused for 12 months. Would it still be a $1000 smartphone? Probably you could have found or negotiated a cheaper price.

    By the time the birthday arrives the daughter should be familiar with the iPhones features and can confidently use the phone to capture higher quality birthday photos/videos/memories.

    Of course there are exceptions where the Pro's outweigh the Con's. Eg. A significant 18th birthday with +200 guests and you want to blow all her other presents out of the water.

    • Marcsie on 15/01/2017 - 15:54

      You worry too much,life is short :)

  • outlander on 14/01/2017 - 15:33

    Why don't you use your excitement to set up a treasure hunt for her? Those are always fun, and will be remembered long after the phone has been forgotten

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