Is It Possible to Get Bored in Paradise?

[Deactivated] on 12/07/2015 - 17:51
Last edited 22/04/2019 - 19:05 by 1 other user

AKA first world problems…AKA the adventures of a kept-man (?)

The Mrs has been offered a 6-month stint overseas and we're all moving with her. She will be working full-time, the kids will be attending the local school and I'll be …jobless. Well, technically, I'll be on LSL,followed by some unpaid leave, and depending on how much we like it there, I might,eventually, quit my job.

The island we'll be moving to is often described as a "fascinating, world-in-one-island slice of paradise. Its very name conjures up images of tropical luxury and stupendous extravagance."

Like I said , the Mrs and the kids will be busy with work and school and I'll be left to my own devices for most of the day. We will be staying at a "pieds-dans-l'eau" villa so I'm planning togo for morning and evening runs and swims. .Maybe incorporate some beach yoga too. I'm also planning to explore the island on a bike. A
Although exploring on your own isn't that much fun and the island isn't that big.Unfortunately,I'm also one of those people who can't sit still and gets bored easily. When I'm bored, I'm insufferable :(

I only ever sleep 5 hours at the most. That leaves almost 19 hours to fill. I won't be allowed to work, or even volunteer, in anything that might even be remotely related to my current job. That includes teaching. I'm an introvert and I've often been described as being "broody" by people who don't know me. I don't brood. I reckon its my nose that gives people that impression. I've got a broody-looking nose, à la David Boreanaz and Ryan Philippe :(

Anyway, the Mrs has given me cart-blanche to do whatever I want to keep myself busy. What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Cheers,
JJB

EDIT: The other option we have been considering is for the mrs to go by herself. The kids and I can visit her over the christmas holidays.But there would be all those long weeks without her… that would suck.We'll miss her:(

Any thoughts on long-distance relationships?

Poll Options

  • 68
    1. Volunteer: teacher's aide, self-defence/swimming instructor, tutoring,soup kitchens...etc
  • 3
    2.Hang out with the in-laws.
  • 42
    3.Befriend other beach-bums.
  • 48
    4.Set up an account on Tinder.
  • 13
    5.other ?
Travel

Comments

      • CVonC on 13/07/2015 - 13:04

        The option of tinder was for… laughs then?

        • [Deactivated] on 13/07/2015 - 14:52
          +1

          Yep.

      • ProjectZero on 13/07/2015 - 13:04
        +1

        tsk tsk… your views on bikie culture is biased… you don't have to be violent =P

        and like bunnyburger said… operate within the parameters of your relationship XD

  • Foxtail on 13/07/2015 - 12:35
    +2

    By the time you've done all the housework, ironing and washing plus preparing meals you wont have much time left:)

    • leiiv on 13/07/2015 - 13:29

      They will probably have cleaners, maids, etc.
      "paradise", "tropical luxury" and "stupendous extravagance"
      Does anyone do house-chores in such a place?

      • [Deactivated] on 14/07/2015 - 12:41

        I do wonder if the cleaners, maids, etc. feel that those 3 words would accurately describe their island.

  • renster72 on 13/07/2015 - 13:01
    -1

    Are you a member of anything? I am a Freemason and they have Lodges on Mauritius, If it were me would visit a local lodge and instantly have a band of Brothers.

    Assume similar situation if you are in Rotary or Lions if they are also represented on Mauritius

    • SavatteDodo on 13/07/2015 - 13:33

      They are represented.

      They are all money grabbers.

  • abc on 13/07/2015 - 13:08
    +2

    I find it fascinating that you are an introvert yet get bored easily and "can't sit still".

    How about just do not much. It seems like you've worked hard enough for a long time to deserve it.

    Can always do fitness training "professionally" and get ripped and really fit over that 6 months :D. Personally that is what I would do!

    • [Deactivated] on 13/07/2015 - 14:42
      +3

      Last time, I checked I was at 10% bodyfat. Anymore ripped than that and it become almost impossible to find decent clothes that fit and the mrs and the kids described it as "cuddling up to a warm slab of concrete". So there's such a thing as being to ripped.

      • [Deactivated] on 13/07/2015 - 14:50

        the mrs and the kids described it as "cuddling up to a warm slab of concrete"

        lol >_<

      • [Deactivated] on 13/07/2015 - 15:18
        +1

        *too ripped

        @turnip, maybe its an acquired taste ;)

        • [Deactivated] on 13/07/2015 - 15:40

          I was more implying that "now I know dat feel, wiki" lol.

      • retiredfeline on 13/07/2015 - 15:24
        +2

        warm slab of concrete

        Maybe something you could develop and market? Too much concrete and not enough hugs in the world.

      • Scrooge McDuck on 14/07/2015 - 21:27

        slab

        Are they saying you're flat!?

        Better get back in the gym. ;)

        • [Deactivated] on 15/07/2015 - 13:15
          +2

          Are they saying you're flat!?

          WUT? of course not!I'll have you know that I have a much bigger chest than the wife :b

          The slab they are referring to is probably my back. I have a nice, smooth back when I'm not flexing.The kids love to give me ashiatsu massages.Its fun.. and kind of relaxing :)As for the Mrs, she's always giving me hugs from behind, especially when I'm doing the dishes or cooking or doing some actual work on my laptop or…come to think of it , the hugs and kisses must be some kind of positive reinforcement.

    • VehemenceThePhoenix on 14/07/2015 - 09:07
      +1

      Agreed. Find a gym and get jacked and tan ;)

    • try2bhelpful on 14/07/2015 - 13:48

      The missus would probably be onboard with that as well. New job as male dancer?

  • bargainjargon on 13/07/2015 - 13:39
    +1

    Take up photography and wander around the island. Or try to live like how the people on that island live and see what that's like. Go swimming and see how far you can swim each day then try to beat it the next day. Or some other challenge like that. Go overseas on short bursts every now and again (less than a week) if it's cool with the Mrs and your finances.

  • airzone on 13/07/2015 - 14:18
    +2

    Working remotely has been mentioned before, but I'll mention it again. If you're in a technology field, there is a good chance that this is possible. And if your company is so hung up on keeping you around, I'm sure they will be willing to come to the party.

    If not?

    Maybe time for a change. If I had to give up IT, then I would be inclined to open a coffee shop, or something niche.. It depended on how much I needed the money, vs how much I needed to fill in time.

    edit: Trying to maintain a long distance relationship will probably end in tears. I'd suggest keeping the family together

  • [Deactivated] on 13/07/2015 - 17:06
    +3

    My brain explodes with all the possibility of your circumstance! To me you're thinking about it in an odd way "What could I possibly do!?" and I don't understand that - (besides work in your old industry) what couldn't you do? Go on Reddit and read the regrets of people who have lived their whole lives for their jobs; it always makes me dream of being in your situation…

    • onlyletters on 14/07/2015 - 08:09

      Can you link me to these regrets so I can read and get motivated?

      • [Deactivated] on 14/07/2015 - 12:10

        I will endeavour to retrieve it for ye! I believe it is in TIFU.

  • Lucky13 on 13/07/2015 - 17:11

    If you work in Science/Technology that you mentioned earlier is it possible to do your old job from home and connect with work via skype or conference calling etc?? Just an idea

  • Cheap Steve on 13/07/2015 - 17:38
    +12

    This is what I imagine a typical day would look like for me for 6 months in Mauritian paradise;

    5am to 7am - Quiet time for myself to play around on the internet, read etc
    7am to 9am - Get the kids ready for school, make everyone breakfast, do school drop-off and also volunteer reading group (kids absolutely love their parents doing anything at their school).
    9am until lunch - Take up that technical sport that I have always wanted to but never got around to eg hang-gliding, scuba diving, kite-surfing, gliding. Most likely I would attempt all of them.
    Lunch time 12pm til 1pm - Delicious lunch with wife or new "adventure sports" friends at local café/restuarant.
    1pm til 3pm - Go to gym or run, cycle, explore, do jobs needed doing
    3pm til 5pm - Pick up kids from school and do fun activities. Most likely take them to the beach and teach them how to surf on foamies or boogieboards.
    5pm til 6pm - Learn how to be an awesome cook, prepare dinner and oversee the kid's homework.
    6pm til 7pm - Have a big family dinner (grand-parents and everyone else welcome), ask how everyone's day was. Try to be funny.
    7pm til 9pm - Put the kids to bed, connect with the wife, if you have grand-parent help I would take full advantage of this and go for plenty of date nights.
    9pm til 12am - At leisure

    In short forget anything that slightly resembles work, instead spend this time connecting with your wife, children and extended family whilst pursuing physical pursuits and making new friends. You are unlikely to get this amount of selfish time again until your kids are out of home in your fifties so FFS don't waste it!

    • eagleanthony on 13/07/2015 - 21:14
      +2

      In effect, you really only have 5 hours to 'fill' each day.

      9am - 12pm
      1pm - 3pm

      5 hours x 180 days, 900 hours!

    • onlyletters on 14/07/2015 - 14:41
      +2

      take this guy with you!

    • Scrooge McDuck on 14/07/2015 - 21:39
      +1

      9pm til 12am - At leisure

      Could do a lot of connecting with the wife in that time. ^^

  • fidgetation on 13/07/2015 - 18:08
    +3

    So jealous! This is what I would do:

    1) Become super fit and get a body that's magazine ready (seriously - who else gets to work out 3 times a day!!)
    2) Restore / replicate a vintage car (Jaguar E-type!) - if you're not into cars, learn how to fly or something
    3) Become a chef - learn how to prepare healthy, gourmet meals that you'd be proud of
    4) Volunteer for something - something without borders?

    Go back to work after that, pick up your bonus, realise that your jobless life was so much better, return.

  • [Deactivated] on 13/07/2015 - 19:26
    +13

    Hey Jar Jar here is my story the edited one anyway lol…

    I spent 6 years in various government postings in South America suddenly to find that my contract had ended and I was at a loss as what to do I had just lost all my savings to an unscrupulous friend (are you listening Roger Gallo?) who had me invest in fake property. Anyway that is another story but my wife had a job so we would be ok financially, but it looked like I was going to be stuck in Lima Peru twiddling my thumbs so to speak. We were vasilating on whether to move back to OZ or tough it out and settle in Peru ( where she is from) upshot we decided to tough it out and I would see what I could find to do. We moved out of our apartment and in with my mother in law in one of the outer suburbs where I was to be the only gringo. Best thing that ever happened to me I went native and became one of the locals every day was an adventure, walking soaking in the sights doing the shopping catching local buses, joined a gym made heaps of friends for life. Probably the best thing that happened was I learnt about family her family is huge there is always an uncle or aunt wanting to take you here or there, never forget watching my favourite talk shows on thew couch with my mother in law both of us laughing at the stupidity. I could go on but all in I spent 11 months doing this before we moved back to OZ…. FLAT OUT BEST TIME of my life.
    Go enjoy don't be fearful you will surprise yourself.

    • [Deactivated] on 13/07/2015 - 19:47

      Cheers mate

    • movieman on 13/07/2015 - 20:06
      +2

      Hi bebon,

      I'm sure you visited the shopping centre in Miraflores… such a beautiful location for it.

      Just wow!

  • movieman on 13/07/2015 - 20:04
    +4

    WOW. What an awesome opportunity you've been presented with.

    Take a book with you (empty), journal in it everyday, and enjoy the simple things in life, in paradise.

    Opportunities do not come around often such as these (if even once), and you will never know until you've been there a few months.

    I say 'Just do it", and enjoy!

  • timbobjim on 13/07/2015 - 22:59
    +1

    I had a similar arrangement and started going nuts after about 3 months and so ending up traveling 2 hrs a day to get work so I could keep my sanity. Try working part time at least 2-3 days just to keep the brain ticking.

  • onlyletters on 14/07/2015 - 09:30
    +1

    YOLO, just go with her. Keep busy, write a blog, talk to us when your there and post pictures.

  • Islander on 14/07/2015 - 13:00
    +2

    6 months will fly by if you are busy. If you're dreading boredom, try a new sport/activity
    apparently kite surfing is pretty good there. might be worth giving a try…
    there's a few nice golf courses as well if you're into golf.

  • rcrowl on 14/07/2015 - 15:14

    Set up and run a Ozbargin (franchise) there

  • D4NVT on 14/07/2015 - 15:27
    +1

    Scuba diving. Lots and lots of scuba diving…

  • lenlynn on 14/07/2015 - 15:37
    +2

    Just go for it! It is less the place but more what you want to make of it. Have fun!

  • Penalty boxer on 14/07/2015 - 16:45

    I would play so much golf…

  • altomic on 14/07/2015 - 20:27
    +1

    TL; DR.

    do a uni course by distance ed.

  • mousie on 14/07/2015 - 21:30

    Obvious troll is obvious.

  • secondstory on 14/07/2015 - 22:36
    +1

    Take up Ingress

    Long distance relationship would be hard on kids.

  • GameChanger on 15/07/2015 - 00:27
    +1

    When is JJB gonna post pic of himself?

    So many stories need face!

  • gccmelb on 15/07/2015 - 12:41

    Do you have to be on Mauritius the whole time? Sometimes airlines (emirates) have cheap deals from there.

    • [Deactivated] on 15/07/2015 - 12:43

      I've never seen any reasonably-priced flights to or from Mauritius.

      • Scrooge McDuck on 16/07/2015 - 12:36

        :(

        • [Deactivated] on 16/07/2015 - 18:59

          Its about $1600 return per person.

  • alexthebargainman on 15/07/2015 - 13:03

    Don't go long distance. Just get a job there, just because you don't have to work doesn't mean you can't.

  • WaterMark on 15/07/2015 - 13:07

    So does that mean you won't be able to ozbargain anymore. You can still window shop lol :)

  • walvisch on 15/07/2015 - 18:18
    +3

    I've split my responses into the things that stood out for me in this thread.

    Post-serfdom
    If they pay that much for you to do nothing, imagine what you could earn by breaking those shackles? Then again you are obviously very valuable to them, this gives you huge leverage to get them to agree for you to 'explore' things that aren't directly 'violating' your current employers interests. Investigate what you may like to do in your Sojourn and then give your employer a detailed plan of what you intend to do and indicate the borders of your exploration and a benefits/negatives analysis. Negotiate from your strength. Oh, and I've met lots of very well educated people who have found their happiness in an unrelated field and often 'below' their education level. Do you really want your tombstone to read "He was good and loyal employee" ?Unshackle!

    The In-laws
    If you feel your wife/family flourishes over where she wants to be, go with her/them. I'am not saying that your happiness doesn't count, but your partner and kids happiness should be your priority, just as your happiness should be hers! If you both do this you will actively trying to make each other happy, this is not common in this ego driven selfish world. Your wife is with you despite her family's, or perceived by you, reservations. She must love you and be a keeper!

    Going local or live remote.
    It is not clear to me how the career move/ going home-land percentages are split here.

    From my own experience (and my wife and I are both immigrants to Oz.) For the last ten year I've been living from Romania to New Zealand. Berlin to Papeete whilst my wife is busy being a movie executive. My career was floundering so it was an easy decision to make, so now I am the primary caregiver to our 8 year old twins. Have homeschooled them on and of. We are currently living apart. She is working in China and the kids and I are at home as the kids voted ABC = Anywhere but China. I don't blame them, we have lived there twice before. We visit every 5-6 weeks for a week or fortnite. A modern FIFOFA. Never again, stick together, separation is very hard to do.

    Appreciate that you have options, don't see this as a burden. Oh and go and buy a small catamaran and sail / fish at every opportunity!

    • Scrooge McDuck on 16/07/2015 - 12:42

      Brainstorming:

      Negotiate for a substantial job for your wife with your current employer?

      • [Deactivated] on 16/07/2015 - 15:20
        +3

        @ McDuck, its complicated. She used to love her job…and then she got promoted :(

        Her predecessor had 4 mental breakdowns in 2 years. During that period, the organisation was in "firefighting" mode and the only projects that got approved were my wife's. She can be like a pit bull with a rag-doll when it comes to advocating for her clients. A very pretty pitbull…who doesn't drool.

        There's an audit coming up and her precedessor said she'll come back "when hell freezes over".So they've given the job to my wife since she's the only one who seems to know what's going on, how to work the system and hopefully, how to fix it. She didn't want the job. She loves to be in the field and this is an office job. But then, it was made very clear to her that if she doesn't step up to the plate, then its unlikely that the organisation will be able to maintain its accreditation or its various funding..which would mean people would have to be let go of and her beloved clients will be left in the lurch.

        She's given herself 18 months to get the organisation over the line,shake things up, move to a more pro-active management-style ,boost employee morale, get more projects going, find funding for said projects and do a proper handing-over with her successor, whoever that would be, and then she's walking away.

        So its not so much that she can't find another job but its more that she can't quit her current one. She has been approached for a few things other than that 6 months project in Mauritius, including teaching and joining her mentor's private practice.She's choosing to go to Mauritius.

        • Scrooge McDuck on 16/07/2015 - 15:50
          +2

          Ay yi yi

        • [Deactivated] on 16/07/2015 - 23:46

          Her predecessor had 4 mental breakdowns in 2 years.

          If her plans to improve the situation on Endor go well, your beloved may be energised to a degree and in a somewhat better frame of mind than she is at present. Could happen / stranger things.

          If not, you and 'The Bunchkins' may like to play a game of 'hide and seek' with Wiki, that sees you (and the two Binks munchkins), disappearing off to Mauritius even before Mummy plans to…

          Jar Jar, in that event, I suppose that you could make yourself feel better about it (being on Mauritius may actually help with that), by classing same as a 'tactical retreat'.

        • [Deactivated] on 17/07/2015 - 00:24

          @Tas:

          If her plans to improve the situation on Endor go well, your beloved may be energised to a degree and in a somewhat better frame of mind than she is at present

          She's been mumbling really weird stuff in her sleep lately:"firefighter coding", " "Eisenhower" , "broden(?) and build" … and she's gone back to kick-boxing with a gusto . Never a good sign.

          She'll turn things around because she's quite the miracle worker but she's most definitely not enjoying the ride nor the guilt trip.

  • Natt on 15/07/2015 - 19:04
    +1

    i have skipped through the responses so apologies if I duplicate a comment. Any spelling errors are the ipads fault.

    Six months is nothing timewise, if you are so defined by your work that you would not know how to occupy 24 weeks, then a break will be good for you!

    Be a house husband, and take this opportunity to catch up with your family. Or find a nice inlaw and start working yourself into their life. Then move on to other inlaws. Build some bridges and have them thinking how awesome you are!

    Take up a new skill. learn guitar, work in a pub, be a tour guide!

    I am sure that your other half has made concessions for you, or gave something up for your happiness. Its good that you are looking forward, but you sound a wee bit selfish. hopefully its just fear of the unknown.

    You could always work part time and telecommute?

  • Serapis on 15/07/2015 - 19:52

    I take it nobody here likes their in-laws :P

  • Rel63 on 15/07/2015 - 23:26
    +1

    I was the "Wife going away to work" in this scenario. My husband was in the Air-force and when i chose to go help my brother in his business about 8hrs drive away from where we lived. I felt it was the right thing for me to do and our kids, 1 just started high school and the other in yr 8 were coming with me. I suggested to hubby that he could take 3mths of long service at full or half pay as i would be working full time. He was a trained technician and fixed TV's, computers etc as a side thing which he could still do where my brothers business was (It turned out the shop next to my brothers was looking for a good technician).
    I doubt he ever really considered coming with me an option as he just said no. I don't think he actually expected me to go and the morning we left he even asked if i was leaving him. Men do think some odd things, i really wanted him to come with us.
    The moral of this story is that i was away for 3mths and due to issues with the kids chose to come back. Although life went on as it had before, i would say that was the start of the end. Things were never the same and it took a move interstate(he was transferred for work)and 2 more years but i eventually called it done. I never hated him, we were just no longer right together. Did him not coming or me going alone do this? I will never know but i have never felt i made the wrong choice to go.
    Just somethings to think about.

    • [Deactivated] on 15/07/2015 - 23:33

      :-(

    • Scrooge McDuck on 16/07/2015 - 12:51

      Men do think some odd things,

      It sounds like the mutual communication between your husband and you was woeful. And the responsibility for that partly lay with you.

      • Rel63 on 18/07/2015 - 18:12
        +1

        Of course i accept my part, though it seemed no matter how much I tried to communicate with him, it didn't get through. I tried to encourage him to join us and spend his time doing what he really wanted to do (fix technical things). My father had past away the year before and i struggled with that so this was something i hoped to help get me back on track. After i came back everything went back to normal though over the following few yrs he seemed to become more distant from both myself and the kids. I also wish to point out that with him being in the Military, we had already lived in 3 different places, so i fully supported his career and what went with it so felt sad that he couldn't support me for just 3-4mths. I never blamed him for it nor anything else, we both participated and both made choices.
        I am just explaining that whatever JarJar chooses to do, there will be consequences and it's about trying to lessen the negatives of any one.

  • DrStinge on 16/07/2015 - 08:05

    Hey it's a new country! New city! New you! I love going to new countries, it gives you an easy chance to be someone else for a change, plus people love a good Australian accent.

    If this were me I would set some goals:
    - Learn to cook the local cuisine
    - Make six friends (one a month)
    - If you need to, tone up
    - And from your tech background I would spend the time writing an app/game or investing heavily in learning some new tech.

    • [Deactivated] on 16/07/2015 - 15:27

      New city!

      new village :) If I'm not mistaken , Mauritius has only one city and that is the capital.

      And from your tech background I would spend the time writing an app/game or investing heavily in learning some new tech.

      Did I ever say I had a tech background? I'm a scientist.

      • DrStinge on 16/07/2015 - 16:24

        The exclusivity agreement contract I've signed pretty much means that I cannot work or volunteer in any science/technology related field at all.They basically owe my brain.

        :)

        • [Deactivated] on 16/07/2015 - 18:32

          Ah! I meant to say science and applied science. I'm not a programmer. Although I did take a c++ programming class over 10 yrs ago but it was to impress a girl more than anything else.

        • Evil-Elmo on 17/07/2015 - 09:11
          +1

          @Jar Jar Binks:

          Although I did take a c++ programming class over 10 yrs ago but it was to impress a girl more than anything else.

          Wow - you really know how to impress the ladies! I've always found "I know how to code in c++" to be a great pickup line… :)

          Another good one is "why on earth would I want to go to an island paradise with you and do whatever I want every day for 6 months?!". :P

  • MrSavings on 16/07/2015 - 19:13
    +2

    Marriage is about compromise. Think about the experience it will give your wife and kids. Who knows, you might also learn something new about yourself in the process.

    It sounds like your skills are in demand so I'm pretty sure they'll take you back even if you do stay for slightly longer than 6 months

    Life is short, take the chance.

  • anna10 on 23/07/2015 - 12:23

    What is the latest - staying or going? If going, have you had any inspiration on how to cope with 6 months 'out'?

    • [Deactivated] on 23/07/2015 - 21:40
      +3

      Staying ..and going. The mrs and the twins are going in October and I'm joining them for Christmas. Hopefully we're all coming back together in March.

      have you had any inspiration on how to cope..

      Spend time with my family. Get to know the in-laws.Make new friends.Eat as much Dholl Puri , Briyani,Mine bouillie ,ounde , gateau poutou, crepe,glacon rape and alouda as is humanely possible. Learn how to make some of them.

      Explore, swim, parasail, kitesurf, waterski, skuba dive, ..plus all the other stuff on this page, on top of everything almost everything that was suggested in this thread. I may also get a gig on the local tv …

      I might even let my Dad convince me into going to South Afica for a week or so. His family has been wanting to meet my wife and kids for a while. Its going to be fun:)

      Plus the mrs hasn't revoked my carte blanche… and my leave without pay has already been granted. I can take them before I go to Mauritius or stay for another 40 days there or whenever I want to. So really the sky's the limit here ;)

  • ceebee on 23/07/2015 - 21:26
    +2

    Hey.

    So what kind of person do you want to be?

    When you're old and grey, are you seriously going to sit there going "gee, I wish I'd stayed in Australia, working my butt off in the IT industry for a (probably) omniscient mega-company that owns my brain (and possibly my soul)." or do you wanna be that guy that lived six months in Mauritius? Who did something different, something more adventurous. I lurk here sometimes and I remember reading that your wife moved to be with you, right? Do you know how awesome and scary that is? She is awesome. And she at least tried it, she rode that wave— and her heart wants to go back, she isn't happy here. That's fair enough. I think the least you can do is give it six months on the other side, too.

    And what to do? Oh man. You get to spend time with yourself. You get to spend more time with your kids. (I presume they get home from school before you finish work. You get to learn to relax, which is an invaluable skill and incredibly hard to do in today's day and age. While I'm sure you'll have and use the internet, don't use it as a crutch. Because you're lucky; you get to detach from things like the internet and being constantly wired and connected all the time. That's so awesome. Even as a self-confessed technophile, I'd kill to be in that position. There's more to life than status quo and the work grind, even though we all forget that in the moment. Will you get bored? Possibly, but only by your own limits and imagination. I'd make little tasks for yourself. Try and do something new every day. Explore somewhere you haven't been, eat a new food. Learn an instrument (or another instrument, if you already play an instrument), make friends. Expand your learning— Learn the things you always wanted to do but never did. It's a great opportunity to better yourself.

    At the end of the six months, evaluate where you are and how you like it there. If you need to, come back— you gave it a go. But the choice between having and adventure and not having an adventure is always have the adventure!! Push past your comfort zone. Life is short and living in another culture is indescribably awesome.

    I'm biased though, I'm in a long distance relationship and I am a child of immigrants, too. My boyfriend is American, and I'm staying with him for a while in September. Long distance is absolutely doable as long as it has an end-date and the people are super in love and committed. If you guys are gamers, you can game using PS4 or XBO, or play online MMOs. We also watch Netflix together, (by pressing play at the same time) and there's Skype etc. But eventually someone is going to have to move, yeah.

    Best of luck whatever you choose.

    • [Deactivated] on 23/07/2015 - 21:52

      you can game using PS4 or XBO, or play online MMOs…etc

      I'll definitely pass on your suggestions to my wife…especially the skype sex one :p

      Thank you:) Best of luck to you too.

  • [Deactivated] on 08/08/2015 - 13:29

    I hv 99 problems but getting bored in paradise isn't one of them anymore :-(

    • anna10 on 08/08/2015 - 14:49

      What has happened, sounds serious?

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