What should I do? Housemates leaving, building new house...

bargainbot12 on 07/11/2018 - 20:42

Hello,

I feel like I’m a bit of a delema, my house mates of 18m have just told me they leaving and moving out in 4 weeks time. I really like there company and I would be alone when they leave. To really spice things up I’m about to sign a contract to build a new house and land package which will be a little bigger than my current house.
This news that they are leaving really took me by surprise and I’m not sure what I should do.

Should I live alone and potentially just get by, lose a very comforts of having house mates.
Should I move back home then rent out my place or sell my place
Does anyone have other suggestions?

Thanks

Poll Options

  • 28
    Stay by myself
  • 8
    Move back home and rent out house
  • 2
    Move back home and sell house
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Comments

  • Davo1111 on 07/11/2018 - 20:49
    +39

    how do you have the funds to build a house when you cant make simple decisions like this?

    • HighAndDry on 07/11/2018 - 23:35
      +2

      Cut him some slack! He's bot, this probably fell outside his programmed parameters.

  • wordplay on 07/11/2018 - 21:01
    -3

    I would ask the housemate not to leave, tell them they can live with you for free because you would miss them too much. Or ask if you can move into the new place with them and rent out your current house.

    don't lose them, a good housemate is hard to find.

    • payton on 07/11/2018 - 23:23

      bad idea
      giving people free residence is the start of them being lazy, unappreciative and terrible housemates

      • HighAndDry on 07/11/2018 - 23:36
        +1

        Also that just reeks of desperation. No one likes desperation.

  • JimmyF on 07/11/2018 - 21:01
    +9

    I don't understand the choices…. Why not just move to the new house and look for new housemates?

  • elgrande on 07/11/2018 - 21:06
    +4

    Sell your place because your room mates are leaving ?

    Yes indeed.

    Sell up and donate that money to somone who appreciates it :p

  • Quantumcat on 07/11/2018 - 21:06
    +1

    Why not just advertise for new housemates?

  • elgrande on 07/11/2018 - 21:07
    +3

    P.s. Nice troll

  • ihbh on 07/11/2018 - 21:07

    Do you want to get married one day? If so, how close are you to it (e.g. got partner, had the conversation, etc.)?

  • Ughhh on 07/11/2018 - 21:12
    +1

    Chain them up in a locked room or house.

  • zonra on 07/11/2018 - 21:22
    +4

    Whatever you do, don't show them this post or they'll hightail right out of there 4 weeks early.

  • chumlee on 07/11/2018 - 21:36
    +5

    I would either lay off the drugs or take more - your choice

  • slow on 07/11/2018 - 21:37
    +2

    Offer to pay them to stay

  • holdenmg on 07/11/2018 - 21:41
    +4

    If you leave me, can I come too?
    We can always stay
    But if you leave me, can I come too?
    And if you go, can I come too?

    https://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/mentalasanything/ifyouleavem…

  • Marcsie on 07/11/2018 - 22:39
    +1

    1st world problem :)

  • blitz on 07/11/2018 - 22:44
    +4

    Sit your housemates down, and sing them this:

    If you leave me now
    You'll take away the biggest part of me
    OH OOO HOOOOOOOO No baby please don't go

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=32GdEFADy6s

  • [Deactivated] on 07/11/2018 - 22:46
    +1

    Learn to be lonely,
    Learn to be your own companion…

  • Rukiata on 08/11/2018 - 00:41
    +3

    get a dog?

  • Nugs on 08/11/2018 - 05:08

    Eric said it best

    https://youtu.be/-o9gf_soFBM?t=54

    .

  • Godric on 08/11/2018 - 06:36
    +1

    Build the house under my name I'll come live with you

  • Donaldhump on 08/11/2018 - 08:45

    I’ll live with you for free if your after someone to chat to.

  • pantsparty on 08/11/2018 - 08:46

    lol

  • MoonlapseVertigo on 08/11/2018 - 09:22
    +1

    mate living on your own is the best. Get on tinder and enjoy the fruits of life

  • kolorijo on 08/11/2018 - 09:30
    +1

    give me your house and you can live with my housemates

  • onetwothreefour on 08/11/2018 - 10:32
    +1

    Come and live with my wife and kids and I'll live on my own in your place.

  • try2bhelpful on 08/11/2018 - 10:48
    +2

    When we were younger we were the housemates in this scenario,. We decided we were better off alone, rather than continuing to rent with our housemate. She assumed we would move in with her when she bought a house to help her offset the costs. Yeah, nah - one of those instances where you don't move in with people if you want to keep them as friends.

  • tiger2000 on 09/11/2018 - 06:58

    It seems you may be changing up the current situation by wanting to move into a new house & land package. So your current housemate may enjoy where you both live currently, but now you want to own your own home.
    I would understand if your current roomie may not fit your new decision and place to call home due to many different reasons, some of which being now a change for your roomie that may not in the best location, or they maybe do not want to be committed to a different setup.
    I have lived with many different housemates over the last 16 years, but now finally I have settled into a smaller 2 bed rental with my best friend, and I couldn’t be happier (it was the best living decision I have ever made).

    In my point of view you would have these decisions to make, do you then:
    - Decide to move into this new contract and house package, knowing that you will indeed need to either fork out the mortgage and all other costs associated (such as utility bills, maintenance costs, rates and mortgage, along with furniture and possible lawn mower etc) by yourself, including most of the responsibility, or find another person (or people/couple) to hopefully settle in with you, remembering that you may have to live with random people who you do not entirely trust initially, which may or may not end up being good or bad, and know that these people may continue to move in and out, possibly taking advantage of your situation as well. Of course you also then have a place to own and manage, where there is no real estate or owner to deal with, and you are then signing up to live there for as long as you can,
    - Decide to scratch the house package, and instead continue to live in the same area, or even possibly inner city, knowing that you are then not making this entirely about yourself, and then showing your current roomie that you do actually have his or her best interest in mind, which may then allow them to reconsider, or give you more piece of mind that you will have more options in terms of people wanting to share a place with you due to mostly the location,
    - Or decide to live by yourself (or with your parents, whatever your other options are) in a one or two bed place, being that wherever you want to be, in a city or further out, and becoming completely self sufficient + having the freedom to live how you please, but knowing that things may be more pricy due to not sharing the cost of living.

    I myself have more responsibility than my housemate/best friend, so more cleaning and manage the bills/and deal with the real estate etc, however I also then keep my housemate happy, satisfied and content, and therefore keep the communication and good relationship going. I also somewhat enjoy having the responsibility. I would not like to live by myself as I enjoy the company of good friends. I hope this then helps you with your decisions, and best of luck :)

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