[SOLVED] Was I Harrassed at Work?

Hey guys.

I want to get some thoughts about an situation at work today. I usually go for a run at the work gym for half an hour at lunch and shower afterwards.

Anyway today after my run I walked into the change rooms and headed into a shower. As I stepped in the shower cubical one of the other guys I see often was finishing changing and up came to my block and asked if I’d seen a watch. I looked and said no and thought nothing of it. When I finished showering he knocked on the shower again demanding I return the watch and I thought what is he on about? I said no I don’t have your watch.

He then asked if I could spread my towel that I had around my waste and I thought alright fine look nothing there, he seemed really agitated. He also checked my undies and nothing there. He was starting to get worked up trying to find his watch. Apparently it was a Samsung smart watch that cost $600. Anyway I did my best to be polite and not start anything. I suggested to him go ask reception if anything’s been handed in.

I came away from that feeling really uncomfortable cos later I thought he was accusing me of theft and being quite aggressive about it. I’m just wondering if anyone else had a similar experience in the workplace. Should I do anything or say anything to HR?

It got me a bit rattled in the afternoon cos I couldn’t stop thinking about it maybe should have stood up for myself more or just went to HR then and there. Anyway just wondering what ozbargainers thoughts are.

TLDR: Got accused of theft at work change rooms. Other guy was rude about it. I obliged embarrassingly. Felt somewhat uncomfortable about it. Should I do anything or just move on as one of those things.

Update: the other guy found his watch. Turns out his workmate was playing a joke on him. He came to me and apologised profusely for his behaviour. I did say to him that things could have went very differently and he acknowledged that.

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  • +1

    Oh… I'm surprised this has not been raised in the discussion yet…

    What did the watch guy expect to see? I mean, under the towel? How did he think the watch was being… supported? Did he think it was 'lodged' somewhere? Or dangling off a hook perhaps? What means of support did he suspect the watch would have had?

    • Please no, that is an image I'm not getting rid of in a hurry

    • If its with an adjustable band… then could be fairly easy if you use your imagination

  • +1

    @HighAndDry, is it you looking for the watch? You are pretty vocal and against the OP.

  • -1

    Hey OP

    I'll give you $300 cash for the watch

  • based on the update … in my view, the case is closed
    Life is a different kind of teacher … give you the test first and the lesson later :-)
    1. Learn to stand up for yourself
    2. Nobody should make you do something that you think is ethically/morally inappropriate
    3. Forgive and forget

      1. Not all women come across something like this. Then again with a woman being killed a day due to violence, you really gotta wonder now. I think that along where she felt belittled and afraid a bloke acting aggressive towards her over a stupid watch. I'm sure if this was your wife or daughter…would you let him do that to them? My money is no..

      2. Agree

      3. Forgive? Not until he gets reported and an official warning is given to him. Now imagine if his mates do another prank that could be more severe than a watch prank…imagine his next "target"…a child (boy or girl) women, elderly…you name it.

  • +2

    You were harrassed. Definately report this to HR, teach him a lesson to not jump to conclusion and if appropriate…he can talk to HR first regarding missing watch, they will send an all staff email regarding it. We do this at work too for missing items lost or found..not go private detective harrassing people.

    Sorry but did he went through the other mates underwear regardless whether you're in the shower or not? Doubt so.. he'll get knocked out

  • Next time say 'you mean THIS watch?' - https://imgur.com/a/PYtCkMq

  • Alternatively, you could deliver this speech - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I1ukjdwLAIc

  • Thread closed, issue has been resolved as indicated by Op.

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