So recently single and trying out dating apps, so far haven't paid for anything, but seems you do miss out on a lot if you don't.
So in typical OzBargain fashion, I'm looking for the best deal.
Eharmony for instance started off by offering me 25% off the first 3 months…once that deal expired it was 35% off and now 50% off, but has to be for 12 months.
Just curious how good the discounts get? Should I keep waiting?
If only we could swipe left on you!
but seems you do miss out on a lot if you don't.
That's just their advertising get to you. Online dating is easy if you meet the first two rules.
100% discount guaranteed if you stay single
Better to pay for a friend to help take good photots, or a professional.
Also get someone to look over your profile.
and now 50% off, but has to be for 12 months.
12 mths? but the ads on TV show people finding their dreamy soul mate on the first date….
I was on one of these sites yrs ago, and miracle by miracle I heard nothing until few days before my plan expired, and I heard from several women..
So sucker here paid up once - messaged them, heard nothing…
Yep, they got you good. Common knowledge all these dating sites use mock accounts to take advantage of patsies.
So sucker here paid up once - messaged them, heard nothing…
User name checks out.
I wouldn't bother paying… From the experience of all my friends who have tried these apps, they all seem to be full of bots, fake accounts, Instagram models looking for follows and hookers. These apps make you pay to get access to features and will bombard you with "this person liked your profile, pay us to find out who" and there are an unrealistic amount of people "in your area".
Same. Haven't tried myself but a few friends have complained that the paid access is not worth it at all.
Also all my single female acquaintances seem to mainly just get a whole bunch of d@ck pics and/or conversations along the lines of:
Them: "Hey there"
You: "Hi"
Them: "Wanna @#$@?"
I think it is terrible for either gender to be on. Women are there to just find "true love" and guys are just there for hookups. Women get bent out of shape because every guy is treated as a potential d!ck pic distributor, and all guys treat the women as bots/hookers.
And dont even get me started on the topic of the toxic "About Me: profiles" that both genders leave. I go through one of the guys Tinder acocunts at work and just dry heave at what these women leave in their comments. Well, maybe you cant catch a man, because a: your ego, b: your overly generous self assessment and c: you're toxic AF.
And women are no better at the conversations. I often go through with my mate at work on lunch break the conversations he has with these women, and it's all… "no", "yep" or "nah, hbu?". His conversation skill are not epic, but christ, lady, have some respect, either say no thanks or converse back. They only want that dopamine hit of hearing that *ping* notification and not have to work for it.
If I found myself suddenly single, the last place I would go to looking for someone would be any of these gawd awful toxic websites/apps.
Not giving you right matches is better for business, you'll stay as a paying customer. We need OzDating. @scotty?
Have you tried Bumble, Hinge?
Stay clear of Tinder. It's an absolute cesspool (not that Bumble/Hinge are much better ).
They all have paid features designed to keep you on the app and using it. It can be hit and miss to be honest.
However what's more important for online dating than paying thousands of dollars is how you present yourself. If you're a male then unfortunately the cards are stacked against you unless you are very good looking.
If you want to understand how insane online dating is, create a profile as a moderately attractive female and you'll get hundreds of likes/messages in the first minute. Do the same as a man and you won't get any.
Because of this you need to present yourself very well. Slobs that are overweight/unattractive/boring will get ZERO interest, so if you're any of those then you need to work on that first.
Redhotpie is the same.
Can stand out on RHP by simply not sending a dick pic straight up, but yes you need to pay and msg first
the irony is that for the average guy, you can do all that work but still only get matches with girls that are overweight/unattractive/boring
Correct.
It's actually a psychological thing, and it goes for both men and women. If you are seeing potential dates who are absolutely gorgeous that you can message, you think you can go out with them. Normally you'd have social anxiety, but with an app there's none of that, so you shoot your shot with them? There's also the superficiality of it, because it's literally all about how someone looks (anyone telling you they read the prompts is lying to you. They're reading the prompts to validate what they've already determined, that they are hot).
Online dating never was a great thing, but nowadays with our short attention spans it's even worse.
No, the irony is, you can set up a profile as an overweight/unattractive/boring female and still gets hundreds of clicks per hour than a moderately attractive, ordinary build, interesting male.
I think if you don't depend on it as your only source for meeting ppl then it's better than say playing candy crush. As a primary source it'll be very emotionally draining.
Bring back MSN chat, the free and easy way to meet people…… of all ages.
A/S/L?
ICQ FTW
its still going too… logged onto my account not long ago LOL
its back, its now teams personal
Welcome to MSN where the men are men, the women are men, and the children are fbi agents.
If you're recently single, spend the money on a gym membership, a dog or cat and mountain bike/surf board/motorbike/other hobby. Better yourself and be happier with yourself first. Through the above you are bound to meet new people, with similar interests, for free.
^ this!
Recently got out of a 5 year marriage and spending time between gym, my dog, work, meet ups to meet new people and make friends! Trying to focus on the things that would be easier - aka… starting with myself!
Dating is meh at the moment…. and the last thing on my mind!
I have to agree with these, focusing on myself more, actually gets me more potential romantic interests then putting alot of effort into finding someone. Tried dating apps and it was awful, irl interactions are much better.
Just don't let any of those become your personality.
Nothing worse than someone whose entire identity is {x}
Disagree there. Nothing wrong with having a passion. If you don't like it, you do you.
There's a difference between having a passion and that thing being your entire identity.
If all you can talk about on a date is your dog or your motorbike and absolutely nothing else, then that's not a very interesting person.
@coffeeinmyveins: Probably agree with both comments here!
Trying to find a balance between self care and also making friends and not focussing on the past!
Doing group fitness and some volunteer work, which was out of my comfort zone and always had excuses for not doing those.
Plenty of good things in life that you miss when you get carried away… atleast in my case!
Online dating is great for women as they get all the attention and don't have to pay anything. It's terrible for men unless you're really good looking and/or appear to have a lot of money.
For the rest of us see zeggie's comment above.
Online dating for women is trash. Unless you're into unsolicited picks of dick or you enjoy being treated like you're disposable.
I was a skeptic at first but I can say that speed dating has been a great alternative to the apps, gets you out there and keeps you social.
might bet better off tryin on Gumtree.
If you wait, they will offer 50% off again. Or contact their support saying you saw the deal a while ago and they may offer it again.
Cashrewards and Shopback are probably your best bet.
I've met some interesting people on eharmony and made one really good friend. No romance yet. If you put some effort into your profile and in conversations with people, you'll stand out. Nothing worse than a half-arsed profile and bad communication. A lot of women seem to expect the male to do all the work. My profile is pretty clear about what I want and don't want. That weeds out a lot of time wasters.
Just use your hand. Massive savings.
I'm in the same boat. I voiced my displeasure with them through surveys and such which has given me premium for 3 days for free and afterwards an offer for 60% off (can't recall for what duration).
I've been on dating apps for the last 5 years
What I learned was:
Plenty of fish when it first came out was totally free and I found my first long term relationship of 2 years from there.
When that ended I went back on it and this time you had to pay to talk to anyone. I recommend you do this and make sure your profile is very detailed and your photos are very nice and then just go for it and message everyone you're interested in.
Don't be shy and just go for it because we others have said, its 10x harder for males so you always have to make the first move and don't be pushy or salty when you get rejected lol.
The other apps are absolute scams so do not pay for any other then pof. Tinder is crap, hinge and bumble are all fake profile, and eHarmony is the absolute worst of them all. Totally fing scam
Good luck out there
OZB + dating world == trying to save afew $$$ ???
OP : hope you don't intend to take your potential date to a dinner / event … then use a discount code as well !!!
Also - in this day/age … AFTER the very first date … it's worth going 50/50 in costs as to date/adventure - get-together.
Otherwise, as a male - you'll end up broke very quickly - and still single as well.
In all seriousness ….
you'll probably find that - ppl are members of multiple dating websites (some of these are free to contact).
So if they are on Eharmony, they may be on other sites too.
As always - do contact other people respectfully as a person.
I've been out of the dating game for way too long … but prob same as back then … women getting hit with heaps of contacts every day … Need to make sure your msg stands out + shows your true worths/personality/potential.
All your need is tinder, plenty of fish and okcupid. Okcupid relies on a decent profile and pictures. Plenty of fish is similar, both are good for mature dating. Don’t pay a cent. Feeld was another one I was surprised had a decent user base but that’s more for threesomes/one night stands. If you are going to spend money, go to a speed dating event in your area when you are ready
"speed dating" - that brings back memories from way back when.
Yeah but NO … but sorta.
From my exp back then 2010'ish …
majority of single women were mostly dragged along by their coupled friends, looking to give them an ego boost.
These women were often just recently out of a relationship, and looking for a rebound … not long term.
Saying that - there were some I met that were looking for long-term relationship …
Infact 1 I met through speed dating … I really could've settled down with (but timing wasn't right with her job and all) … she worked FIFO up north at the time.
Yeah exactly, can’t hurt, usually not too expensive, good to get out of comfort zone and speak to a bunch of people at once
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