"Helpful" waitress spoiled our celebration

I would love to know what you all think of this situation that happened in a restaurant recently.

I phoned and made a booking at a casual restaurant for a family group of 16 for Sunday lunch. It was to be a celebration after my 1 year old daughter’s dedication at church.
I told the waitress that one of the group would be bringing a special cake and she told me the per person charge for serving it. All fine.

We arrived at the restaurant and my mother-in-law gave the cake in a box to the waitress and she took it to the kitchen. We then ordered our meals and ate them over the next hour. When it came time for dessert we asked the waitress to bring out the cake. Shortly afterwards, it arrived. We all looked up expecting to see the delicious cake that she had ordered from a cake shop, beautifully decorated. Instead what we saw was about TWENTY PIECES of CUT cake spread on a plate next to the icing placard (with my daughter’s name and a message to her) lying next to them. ARGGHHH. My mother-in-law just looked at it, stunned and eventually asked her “WHY did you cut it up?” The waitress just said “Oh, I thought you wanted it ready to serve to everyone! I thought I was being helpful !”. My mother-in-law said “But nobody had seen it !” The waitress mumbled “I’m sorry”. So that was it. We tried to imagine what it would have looked like when it was whole and then ate it. Tasted very nice, but hardly the special experience we were anticipating and a huge blow at the time to my mother-in-law who had probably paid a lot for it and certainly put a lot of effort into planning the design, hoping everyone would be able to admire it. The manager did agree to waive the cake surcharge (though it took some time for him to offer this).

Later I rang the cake shop and asked if they had a photo of the design but it was custom-made for us so there is no photo available.
Yes, it’s not a huge deal as a cake gets cut up pretty quickly after people see it anyway. My mother-in-law will get over it (I hope).

Perhaps this situation wouldn’t arise often because most cakes brought to a restaurant are probably for birthdays and it would therefore be expected that candles would be blown out before the cake is cut. However if you do take a cake for another occasion (anniversary, graduation etc.) and you are expecting your guests to see it whole, I would suggest mentioning this to the staff or you may find yourself in our situation. 

Comments

  • $#!t happens, such is life, forgive and forget. Things don'always happen the way we want, we win some, we lose some. Move on mate.

  • I can completely understand why you'd be upset in the moment and anyone can see what a big stuff up it was, but it'd be healthy to look for the humour in this and move on. Your anger served its purpose and protected your boundaries - but I think you now need to accept that it happened and that you can't change it. Dwelling on it just harms you.

    The cake wasn't the celebration.

  • Sounds like an awkward moment - would LOVE to have seen the look on your M.I.L.'s face muahahah

    OK… Couple of suggestions:
    1. Wait a year and get a new cake - recreate the experience :)
    2. Have another child - you can never have another first birthday…or can you?

    Hope the cake was nice :)

  • I'd be annoyed too, but was the entire celebration spoiled ? I probably would have been accepting if the restaurant offered to waive the plating fee.

    In this circumstance you really have to ask yourself: What would Jesus do?

  • +2

    Call me a bit critical but here goes. You say this was after a church function and I assume you gave thanks and all. Well, I assume you gave thanks for being there, the food, for the opportunity to come together, etc." Look, there are truckloads of people who cannot even celebrate with family for many various reasons (and I am not even talking about overseas but here). I know people that would have been happy to even just sit at the same table as their family let alone have a meal and cake. If a cut cake can spoil your celebration, then really it is not worthwhile even having a cake. For me, if I was there I would just say "Hey! don't worry about the cake, as long as we are all here together for [daughter's name]!". I am a father of a young daughter myself and I wouldn't want her to see us all disappointed and upset over something small at an event for her. I would try and turn it around immediately - focus on the taste or something hard. Remember that it was your daughter's event and not your mother in law's event. Learn from it and move on.

    • Totally agree. Child first, mother in law will get over it ( if she can be a grown adult about it), cake not even on the list of priorities.

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