Gift for a mum with a newly born child

wau2 on 10/04/2017 - 22:53

Hi all

We've got a 4 month old and the wife is having her birthday soon. We have been so focused on the Bub that I have just realised my wife's birthday is creeping close. Can anyone advise of any special gifts for a mum?

I used to get her tiffanys but with the Bubs our outings have reduced quite abit. Dinner is definetly on the cards once I try to get a babysitter organised. I'm not into vouchers for house cleaning etc as I already do all the cooking and cleaning as well as midnight feeds.

Thanks in advance

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  • Switchblade88 on 10/04/2017 - 23:12
    +2

    Ask what she'd like. Sometimes it's just some quiet time, or an outing alone if you've got a particularly clingy child (Had three of those…) Otherwise, something she would appreciate that nobody here but you might know. Time is more valuable the less you have to spend, so a long, quiet evening out together is perfectly acceptable.

    Apart from that, I probably can't help - the implication of regular jewellery gifts implies a household budget an order of magnitude above my own!

  • Biance on 10/04/2017 - 23:28
    +2

    My brother's wife's first birthday since baby (a couple weeks ago) went like this:

    Drop baby off with me, and they went together and had a couple's pamper day - nice lunch, couples massages, movie, etc.
    She was super nervous at first, especially because she didn't know how long they were leaving the baby for so I had several changes of clothes and enough formula to last through an apocalypse :P
    But I believe she enjoyed it, even just the fact that he planned it all out for her :)

    Just make sure the baby is with someone you fully trust so she won't be worried the whole day.

  • spackbace on 11/04/2017 - 00:34
    +7

    Forget about it being a gift for 'a mum' and just make it a gift for her :)

    Have a night with her, but then try to get 1 of her gfs to organise a night 'with the girls' while you look after baby.
    Both will be appreciated in their own right :)

    • mskeggs on 11/04/2017 - 07:31
      +2

      I agree.
      Mother's Day is in May, make the birthday about her. A night out with friends is a good gift too, maybe you can organise it as a surprise?

  • scrimpingstan on 11/04/2017 - 00:35
    +2

    Winter is coming, warm slippers and a thick warm robe that she can pull on when little one wakes her at 1am, 2am,3am etc. She probably has that from last year but does it still fit her well after pregnancy (yes her foot size could have changed)

    Baby friendly jewellery - check out jellystone designs or mama twofish

    A couple of hours to herself

    Also note that mothers day is only a few weeks away.

  • try2bhelpful on 11/04/2017 - 09:14
    +1

    Congratulations on the baby, I hope everything is going well. Maybe the present could be something like 5 massages, or similar so she feels continuously pampered rather than one big event. She would probably welcome the smaller breaks rather than the organisation associated with something big. However, certainly ask her what she wants first.

    • John Kimble on 12/04/2017 - 11:54

      My wife gets upset if I "ask her what she wants" because it ruins the surprise and I'm meant to know her well enough to know/read her mind.

      • try2bhelpful on 12/04/2017 - 11:57

        Why do people play these games. However, maybe you need to pay more attention to the conversations you have with her - there are probably clues in what she is saying. Like, "I really wish I had ……". I will also give you a hint - don't ever make an appliance purchase a "present" and never, ever buy sexy underwear for her - like NEVER.

        • John Kimble on 12/04/2017 - 12:12

          Because "bitches be crazy!"? haha

          She has told me straight out a few times and I've forgotten (so that's my fault obviously…I agree more attention is probably a good start!), Having said this, I have a terrible memory. I need to write stuff down. :/

        • try2bhelpful on 12/04/2017 - 17:27
          +1

          @John Kimble: You need a voice activated recorder that starts on "remember this".

          My man and I don't do presents we buy what we want when the price is rigtht. Then again we are 37 years down the track and can't be stuffed with the hoops.

  • Ryanek on 11/04/2017 - 09:17
    +1

    Spa treatment at a 5 star hotel followed by a seafood buffet.

    • Make it so on 11/04/2017 - 12:34
      +1

      Seafood not necessarily a good idea when breastfeeding. Allergies and-the-like….

  • Skramit on 11/04/2017 - 09:32
    +1

    I have a 1 year old and during the first 12 months my wife loved a day out by herself either with girlfriends for lunch or a spa treatment. Just to chill and relax.

    You can take charge of the baby for a weekend or a day. If she's breastfeeding, maybe just an afternoon or lunch out depending on timings etc and pumpability.

  • oscargamer on 11/04/2017 - 10:19
    +2

    A good night's sleep?

  • mick123 on 11/04/2017 - 12:19
    +1

    A vacuum cleaner

    • John Kimble on 11/04/2017 - 23:25
      +1

      He does all the cleaning, so this would be a present for himself…

  • Make it so on 11/04/2017 - 12:57
    +1

    I agree with comments here - "time off" is the most precious gift you could give her. That, and maybe encouragement in some form to pick up a hobby which she undoubtedly dropped as a result of becoming a parent.

  • [Deactivated] on 11/04/2017 - 23:26

    Kittens gift card.

  • John Kimble on 11/04/2017 - 23:28
    +1

    Yeah, some sort of pampering/day spa I reckon.

  • zoinks on 12/04/2017 - 09:52
    +1

    When my now 1 one year old was 4 months old, I would have liked half a day baby free with my friends, or a full night sleep (breast feeding & bub was waking up 2-3 times per night still).

    My birthday was when he was 1 month old so it was spent holding the baby who didn't want to sleep or only wanted to sleep on me, and wanted to be held all day… while my partner played the playstation or watched tv… ;)

    • try2bhelpful on 12/04/2017 - 11:58
      +1

      Hmmm, sounds like somebody is getting coal for Father's Day.

  • cupcake on 12/04/2017 - 16:08

    Oh! You mean a push present? Or an actual birthday present? Either way, you can't go wrong with a something from Chanel.
    If it's a smaller budget, perfume? What about earrings or a brooch? How about a lovely bag?

    She deserves it :)

    You're welcome.

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