Help! Not Sure if Colleague Is Making Unwanted Advances or Just Socially Awkward
Last edited 08/12/2019 - 12:57 by 1 other user
As of late this guy at work has been creeping me out. I’m not sure whether he’s gay and trying to hit on me, or if he’s just socially inept. He oversteps the bounds of what is considered acceptable behaviour in the workplace, including snatching sensitive documents out of the scanner to satisfy his own curiosity while I was using the scanner. He can’t seem to take a hint when I put on my f*** off headphones when I return to my desk, going as far as following me back to my desk (he sits on the other side of the floor) to continue a one sided conversation. He’s asked me out to lunch a few times and I’ve always cited an excuse, and the days I’m not in the office he’s unusually curious about my plans and/or reason for being out of the office. What’s creepy, however, is that he knows the suburb I’m commuting from even though I’ve never mentioned that to him.
How can I tell if he’s gay or just really socially awkward? If he’s gay i won’t hesitate to tell him to back off, but if he’s socially inept I’ll be in the wrong for taking a strong stance.
He also happens to work in HR, which compounds the problem. I don’t want to be seen as being discriminatory on the basis of his race, nor appear homophobic. There’s been a recent push for diversity in my workplace and I’m not sure how HR would handle this problem.