Houseshare and Roomshare Difficulty for Males

nightqueen on 13/10/2020 - 19:36
Last edited 13/10/2020 - 19:36

As a renting young male that has been housesharing/roomsharing for many years. I'm quiet, friendly, clean and no history of sexual assault. I've found it difficulty to get new accommodation as many listings on gumtree or Facebook often say 'females only or females preferred',.

From my observation, female households, mixed households and male households prefer new female roommates rather than males.

Has anyone noticed this and struggled to find accommodation due to being a male?

Is this a form of gender preference or a form of gender discrimination?

Poll Options

  • 276
    Fair gender preference
  • 106
    Unfair gender discrimination
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Comments

  • Emerald Owl on 15/10/2020 - 14:45
    -1

    Of course its discimination. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it. The pendulum has swong too far in relation to these issues.

  • catbug on 15/10/2020 - 14:52
    +4

    As a girl looking to find a place to live interstate, I get a little uncomfortable getting messages from way older men offering me a room to live in. It's not that I think every guy is going to assault me, and that a woman wouldn't, but I guess I would feel more comfortable living with a woman I don't know than some guys I don't know.

    • Ghost47 on 15/10/2020 - 14:55

      As a guy who did the same old men who messaged me scared me also. I remember one guy who messaged me, his photo looked like he would chop me up in my sleep. I did not respond.

  • KozieSeller on 15/10/2020 - 16:16
    +3

    Reading through the comments show guys can't support each other like girls do, victims of their own double standards
    thus the word simp was created

  • Sidog on 15/10/2020 - 17:48

    As a bit of a stinky man myself, I can fully understand why people prefer women as flatmates.

  • duluxe2000 on 15/10/2020 - 18:18

    Rent a house then sublet yourself . After a while you will form your own preferences :)

    • AustriaBargain on 15/10/2020 - 19:34

      Sublet it to yourself. Be your own landlord.

  • earth worm jim on 15/10/2020 - 21:32
    +1

    It doesn't end there.
    Try being a non white person.

  • [Deactivated] on 16/10/2020 - 00:47

    Go get a mortgage, and buy that dream property, and put some sex offenders in there, they'll pay the rent you just give them the illusion, so you knew nothing. Sadly you will not be able to live there, unless you can dress and roll play.

    But hay you'll be a first time home owner. Just imagine the feeling, and rent paid.

  • greatlamp on 16/10/2020 - 07:43
    +1

    It isn't just house sharing. Landlords and agents also discriminate between 2 male vs 2 female applying for a lease.

    I have heard many stories of guys arriving in a tight rental market and not finding a place for weeks. One even lived in a backpackers for 2 months because they couldn't get accepted on any lease. Always males who ended up with nowhere to live, never females.

    • soaringphoenix on 16/10/2020 - 09:08

      Yep - I had this problem.

      Lived in a few sharehouses for about 6 years. At one stage, I ended up living in an 8-bed shareroom at a backpackers for several weeks because I couldn't get a place to live anywhere, and nearly all of the rentals available were 'females only'. I did try contacting the females only listings and tried the approach listed here, but was always rejected.

      That said, I do understand why the 'females only' preference exists, even if it made my life more difficult at times.

  • gromit on 16/10/2020 - 07:57

    " no history of sexual assault", really hope you don't put that on your applications. I think it would ring alarm bells in most peoples minds.

    • Hangryuman on 17/10/2020 - 10:21

      it's the Bart Simpson defence - 'I didn't do it - no one saw me do it'

  • Username checks out on 16/10/2020 - 08:45

    Yes?

  • Bills22 on 16/10/2020 - 09:15

    Nup. General it comes down to personality,respect for one another and respect for the place. Doesn't matter if you are male or female.

    No history of sexual assault is a bonus though I am not sure why you'd even disclose that.

    Yeah, I discriminate. I don't take full time students.

  • crob on 16/10/2020 - 10:55

    Back when I was head tenant I didn't care, I preferred to keep it 50/50(2 guys, 2 girls), but at some points, it was 3 girls n 1 guy, and, 3 guys n 1 girl… As I didn't want empty rooms… as long you had a stable income and didn't give me a bad vibe in the interview I was open to most people.

  • [Deactivated] on 16/10/2020 - 12:37

    The Chinese are working on a solution https://www.businessinsider.com.au/china-uighur-monitor-home…

  • [Deactivated] on 16/10/2020 - 12:46

    There is a gender bias and it is reasonable for multiple common sense reasons.

    Another point here is that you have been renting for "many years". So I guess this means you may be in your thirties.

    A roomshare between a male and female is rarely going to work, a flatshare with mixed genders is a tougher proposition with an older males. It is still possible, it will just take longer.

    You mention that renting your own place in your desired area is not an option, perhaps you could consider looking in a commutable suburb.

  • 2Poor4Ozb on 16/10/2020 - 13:11
    +1

    I been renting my rooms out for the last 2.5 years. First 1.5 years was to males, they do all their cleaning chores weekly and aint messy or noisy, not the cleanest but then again I'm a clean freak. So I though hmmm maybe girls are cleaner so I rented our to 3 girls. Yeh they're cute and fun to hang out with but OMG The filth they lived in. Even cleaning weekly just cant get the house cleaned. Their bathroom got black mould everywhere, they would used my cooking utensils and not wash it and out it back in the pantry and attract ants. Open jars of food in cupboard attract more ants………. break my cooking stuffs, any the list is endless. So now I lived by myself, ohhhh so damn peaceful!!!! and spotless clean :). RENT OUT A STUDIO AND LIVED ALONE!!!!!!

    • kiitos on 16/10/2020 - 21:57

      As a father of 2 daughters, one a neatness freak and the other a messy whatever, I'd say it's not the gender that determines neatness.

      • Skinnerr on 17/10/2020 - 15:44

        We'll wait and see when they leave home to reserve judgement.

  • samfisher5986 on 16/10/2020 - 14:17
    +4

    I have plenty of experience renting out rooms to males aged 20-35 in a sharehouse.

    I can tell you that almost all of them wanted a female housemate for the chance that they could have sex with them or one of their friends.

    I always mention, don't you think that would make things very complicated? And they always say, no I don't think it would, clearly not realising that it would inevitably go badly.

    Now it doesn't surprise me that women don't want to be in a sharehouse with men.

    • Ghost47 on 19/10/2020 - 19:21
      -1

      Yep don't stick your dick in crazy, lest she start cleaning the toilet bowl with your toothbrush when you're out at work.

  • achyd1 on 16/10/2020 - 20:13
    +2

    I rented for quite a bit. As a male, I prefered other males as housemates. Low maintenance + potential drinking buddies. Can't relate with OP.

  • Hangryuman on 17/10/2020 - 10:26

    with nominative determinism I'm wondering about the OP

    a male with username 'nightqueen' ?

    I suspect there's a whole Rorschach test available there

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rorschach_test

  • timfinn1 on 17/10/2020 - 15:00

    It's gender discrimination, they want someone based on a specific gender should be a no brainer. Should they be allowed to do it ? Is another question.

  • pogichinoy on 17/10/2020 - 15:18

    It's a fair preference.

    My friend for some time had difficulty finding a female housemate, and despite her ad saying females only, she got a number of male queries.

  • Skinnerr on 17/10/2020 - 15:45
    +1

    Looks like you only have one solution OP - "Males Only"

  • sarahlump on 18/10/2020 - 00:06
    +1

    some people feel safer, more comfortable, and less like they'll have trouble living with cis men. I've lived with men and women and its never been a problem but I definitely feel safer living with people who aren't cis men.

  • Blue Cat on 18/10/2020 - 10:34
    +2

    It's only sexist if it harms women.

    Anyways, it reminded me of a story from a friend who used this to their advantage. They lived in a huge shareroom apartment with 4 bedrooms. They could fit 8 people, but it was that there were just 3 (thanks to covid) of them (males) all on separate contracts. Surprisingly, mostly girls would come to inspect the property and the 3 guys would always make sure to mention that currently there are only guys living here. It took the landlord around 9 months to realise what they were up to, so he made it into their contracts that they can't interact with people who come to inspect the property. Pretty smart on the guys side, considering they kept the huge property for themselves and they were paying very cheap rent.

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