My experience is so varied:
1) I have this Kmart magic pan. What coating is this? It's 5 years and still fine, no real sign of scratching off
2) I have some charcoal coloured cookware, mainly pots. It looks like that all round, seems nonstick but not as dark coloured, no scratches. What coatings are they?
3) I have some black Nonstick Cookware like these and they last not so long. From Kmart to home to random Myer sales items.
4) I have some Tefal stuff with the red dot. Had a frypan last years. Had some other pots scratch within six months. Apparently, you can't even sprinkle salt on while cooking, it'll scratch the coating?
We can't use steel/iron, too heavy for our twig arms. So don't worry about writing the same comment about getting a stainless steel or cast iron and lasting forever. Telling my partner to just be stronger is a dumb idea and they will just buy more crappy nonstick stuff that doesn't last.
What are our best options for stuff that lasts a bit?
It varies.