[NSFW] Who Should Be Paying for Condoms?

lusicul on 12/12/2014 - 10:14
Last edited 14/12/2014 - 09:32

Hey guys, just curious, who usually pay for condoms? is it the male or female?

I have been dating this guy for few months and the other day he complained about how expensive condoms are and he wanted me to start paying for condoms. But when I asked him if he would pay for birth control pills too if I were to start taking pills. He said NO.

Just wondering if it's normal for guys, especially in Australia to ask the girlfriend to chip in for condoms?

Thanks in advance

Update: Broke up with him, cried my eyes out but I will eventually be alright (I hope soon). Thanks to everyone for all the kind hearted messages and advices. It does helps to know that there are so many kind people out there

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  • iampoor on 12/12/2014 - 10:28
    +245

    Time to find a new guy? That should answer your question…

    Better be careful though, if he doesn't want to pay for condoms he might be an Ozbargainer..

    • easternculture on 12/12/2014 - 12:40
      +29

      plus 1 for new guy

      • whodidthat on 13/12/2014 - 16:03
        +6

        Plus two for new guy.

        If he wants sex, cover up!

    • edgar28 on 12/12/2014 - 14:03

      yeah, the worst is he bought the one listed on ozbargain before……. the one that broke ….. only 1 out of 10 is good (reviewed by ozbargainer)……. fake golden ring

    • ozeebee on 12/12/2014 - 18:00
      +8

      Exactly, if I was a girl, I wouldn't want an offspring from someone this cheap and inconsiderate.

      This is absolutely the guys responsibility to buy.

      • anonymous01 on 12/12/2014 - 19:43
        +20

        If people from a forum where it's all about bargains and cheap items, if even those people are calling your boyfriend cheap, then you know it's time for a new boyfriend. That is the lowest low any one can hit. Before you dump him though, take a birth control pill, and do buy a condom next time and make a hole in it with a pin. Then after s*x, tell him that condom leaked. Call him few weeks later and say you are pregnant, but you don't want abortion. That will teach him a lesson.

        • cktftw on 13/12/2014 - 10:54
          +5

          Make sure you take the pill for at least a week first to be effective

        • Daabido on 13/12/2014 - 18:39
          +15

          Yeah, that's a great plan.

          Take "a" birth control pill, which will be totally ineffective unless you've been taking for more than a month (and even then it is not 100% effective), then expose yourself to who knows what from the split condom of a guy you're going to dump.

          What a stupid idea.

    • bargdebarg on 12/12/2014 - 23:23
      +1

      If he was an Ozbargainer, he would have gotten a GOOD DEAL!

      • Helmuth on 14/12/2014 - 14:30
        +1

        Or learn how to use Glad Wrap properly :)

    • ErYan on 14/12/2014 - 08:36
      +2
      1. How can ozbargainers call someone else cheap? Wouldn't a saver be a more compatible partner?
      2. It takes two to tango. You both enjoy the sex (I assume) therefore it is a logical argument to say that the price should be shared. This would include the pill too.

      My point, don't suggest axing a guy in what may be a perfectly good relationship over sharing costs on a website for cheapskates.

      Sorry for my first post being so negative.

      • cookie2 on 14/12/2014 - 08:54

        understand we all seem quick to judge.
        But I am judging! It's one thing to thing something like that but to say it out loud to someone you've only been dating for a few months says to me he isnt that concerned about how it will seem or come across to her and he doesnt value her enough as a woman and his partner.
        You know those signs you have while dating and at the end of the breakup you just wish you'd broken up back then? Well I hope this sign isnt in vain for this chickie.

      • iridiumstem on 14/12/2014 - 08:58

        You have to understand that if you look at the timestamp, they are really random as in some people wrote things after someone has replied to another person's post. If you have a read through, then you will see where some of the comments are coming from.

      • Tal_Shiar on 14/12/2014 - 15:26

        Are you the boyfriend? :P

  • ryaniamm on 12/12/2014 - 10:31
    +31

    this thread has made my day.

    • burningrage on 12/12/2014 - 10:41
      +2

      I was going to say "Where did that come from"

  • strikerzebra on 12/12/2014 - 10:31
    +32

    If he doesn't want to pay for condoms imagine if you lived together and you had actual expenses, if he is having sex with you he should at least pay for the condoms.

    • OYC on 12/12/2014 - 14:03
      +11

      agree that condoms should be purchased by the guy and could also be used as a judge of character but your justification is stupid.

      you make it sound like the guy should be grateful and not something both of you enjoy.

    • [Deactivated] on 12/12/2014 - 17:42
      +6

      … if he is having sex with you he should AT LEAST pay for the condoms…

      HA HA… What an idiotic analogy! Since female provides the vagina, the male should AT LEAST pay for the condoms!

      • cornholyio on 13/12/2014 - 18:08
        +3

        she's definitely not having sex too? Only the dude?
        I always used to buy the condoms but then I do the "manly" (sexist) stuff around her house too.
        I just pick and dump a pack in her grocery basket and she does give me the look, but I think that means "you horny f&^^" :-D
        If we can share cab charges, drinks, food then whats the big deal about condoms.

    • skillet on 13/12/2014 - 14:52
      +5

      If you don't leave him now, he will start splitting toilet rolls with you.

  • Gravy on 12/12/2014 - 10:37
    +70

    Just offer to go halfsies if it's that much of an issue for his wallet??? Although might cause some problems when you have to tape the two halves back together again. ;)

    You could of course offer to help save money by reducing sex by 50% , and you may find he discovers some cash in his mattress that he had forgotten about.

  • Sergeant Salami on 12/12/2014 - 10:43
    +3

    LMAO he should have bought these when they were on special…. https://www.ozbargain.com.au/node/166912

  • lusicul on 12/12/2014 - 10:51
    +55

    Nah, he's not an ozbargainer. He buys condoms from Coles at full price and now whinging about how it costs $1 per condom. He said I am asking for too much sex, and each time we have sex it costs him $1.

    But he doesn't mind spending his money on booze.

    • RockyRaccoon on 12/12/2014 - 11:03
      +38

      I think you need a dildo not a Boozo :)

      (Bozo Boozo)

      • PJC on 12/12/2014 - 11:07
        +1

        The best reply I have read all year!
        Damn, maybe not! You altered it!

      • lusicul on 12/12/2014 - 11:14
        +12

        Ha ha, yeah I am thinking of getting myself a dildo for Xmas, LOL. Anyone know where to get good one? :D

        • Hipmumma on 12/12/2014 - 12:08
          +11

          Oh great…looked up an online shop on Google that was really well priced and thought I'd check to see if it was still around. I couldn't find it but now it looks like I've signed up to a weeks worth of Google ads for naughty hookups and singles websites yay! o.O

        • lusicul on 12/12/2014 - 12:11
          +3

          @Hipmumma:

          Oh no!! Sorry to hear that :(

          Thanks for the effort :)

        • iridiumstem on 12/12/2014 - 13:02

          Catch of the day had a deal going on, I still can access it. Not sure whether they are good ones, but some of them look… creative.

          Am I allowed to post the link on here?

        • scrimshaw on 12/12/2014 - 13:29
          +6

          @Hipmumma:

          get Adblock Plus. It's ad-free bliss.

        • iridiumstem on 12/12/2014 - 13:50

          @Hipmumma: I thought that was where the fun lies…

        • Hipmumma on 12/12/2014 - 14:18

          @scrimshaw:

          Thanks I'll have to do that! :) bit awkward if my son saw those ads lol

        • Hipmumma on 12/12/2014 - 14:19

          @AznMitch:

          Apparently but only for the small contribution of your credit card details and spamming of your email address :p

        • ProjectZero on 12/12/2014 - 14:20

          @Hipmumma:

          I doubt it, just very expensive psychiatrist bills…

        • Abaddon on 12/12/2014 - 15:38
          +1

          @scrimshaw: I was a long time ad block plus user. But have recently taken it off. Unfortunately it will cause your browser to chew a lot of memory as the css it includes has gotten quite large and loads for every frame

          If you are worried about ad targeting just use Incognito mode.

        • Cheapo333 on 12/12/2014 - 16:00
          +8

          Woolworths usually sells packaged carrots for $2/kg.
          You can make carrot juice to serve for Xmas.

        • iridiumstem on 12/12/2014 - 16:08
          +4

          @Cheapo333: I personally prefer cucumber salad. I usually go for the continental ones, but when I feel for something exotic… Those long thick Lebanese cucumber. It always leaves me satisfied.

        • Hipmumma on 12/12/2014 - 16:58
          +6

          @AznMitch:

          Lettuce not get carried away now

        • scrimshaw on 12/12/2014 - 17:23
          +5

          @Hipmumma:

          Lettuce turnip the beet.

        • anonymous01 on 12/12/2014 - 19:48

          catch of the day has been having few naughty sales lately…

        • tyler.durden on 12/12/2014 - 22:19

          @AznMitch:

          if you buy from Catch of the day

          you will definitely catch something…

        • Serapis on 12/12/2014 - 22:45
          +3

          Hitachi magic wand, we have one =D

          http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hitachi_Magic_Wand

        • iridiumstem on 13/12/2014 - 02:57

          @tyler.durden: Pokemons? There were ones that looked like pokemons…

        • tyler.durden on 13/12/2014 - 07:00
          -1

          @AznMitch:

          more like STDs

        • scrimshaw on 13/12/2014 - 12:40

          @tyler.durden:

          Gonorrhea! Herpes! I choose you!

        • tyler.durden on 13/12/2014 - 13:47
          -1

          @scrimshaw:

          Those pokemons are nasty…

          continues to poison you even after they finished their attack

        • iridiumstem on 13/12/2014 - 14:36

          @scrimshaw: This explains so much yet so little about why Ash goes around every single region collecting those "pokemons"…

        • rodinthink on 13/12/2014 - 18:01

          kann ich Ihren Dildo sein?? Giggity Giggity Giggity Goo

          https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVFHkAzWAnc

        • DrStinge on 14/12/2014 - 07:42

          @Hipmumma:

          CTRL + Shift + N

    • cypher67 on 12/12/2014 - 11:11
      +4

      Id buy that for a dollar

    • strikerzebra on 12/12/2014 - 11:14
      +36

      He is complaining that you want too much sex?

      Are you sure he is a man?

      • lusicul on 12/12/2014 - 11:17
        +18

        I know right? I am just not sure if its me or him who has a problem.

        It's not like I am asking for sex all the time. It's just that I am easily aroused and usually when I see him I get very excited. We see each other about 4 times a week.

        He only wants to have sex about twice a week

        • strikerzebra on 12/12/2014 - 11:37
          +8

          Only way a guy would ever say no to sex is if the sex is boring and repetetive but I assume that isn't the case his if you are super horny.

        • lusicul on 12/12/2014 - 11:46
          +24

          He's very lazy in bed and doesn't like to do a lot of things. All he does is lie down and let me do all the work.

        • strikerzebra on 12/12/2014 - 11:53
          +5

          @lusicul:

          Whaaaaat? So he won't pay for condoms and the sex is crap?

        • lusicul on 12/12/2014 - 12:00
          +6

          @strikerzebra:

          Yes, the sex is pretty crap :(

        • Tal_Shiar on 12/12/2014 - 12:21
          +5

          @lusicul: you really should have a "we need to talk" moment

        • abbztract on 12/12/2014 - 12:26
          +30

          @Tal_Shiar:

          More like a "find another guy" moment.

        • ProjectZero on 12/12/2014 - 14:25

          @lusicul:

          I just thought of something… if he just lies there… get yourself one of those japanese sex dolls (I think they have male models)… It'd be the same thing.

        • lusicul on 12/12/2014 - 14:34
          +10

          @ProjectZero:

          LOL, I think I should. At least with the sex doll I don't have to give blow job for 20 minutes beforehand. Not that I mind giving one but it sucks when it's not being appreciated.

        • iridiumstem on 12/12/2014 - 15:18
          +2

          You do need to blow it though. If you catch my drift.

          Also, I realised why you didn't want to post your photos.

        • Professor Chaos on 12/12/2014 - 15:24
          +13

          @lusicul: Who are you divine lady, I would spend $5 per condom if I get 20 minute BJ before sex..
          god bless you :) and seriously, ditch the kid

        • ProjectZero on 12/12/2014 - 15:27
          +2

          @Professor Chaos:

          Butters! You're grounded… you're underage!

          @AznMitch

          I believe there are some that do not require blow up.

        • iridiumstem on 12/12/2014 - 16:03

          @ProjectZero: True, but it ruins the "blow" job joke. Also, if I start accepting that sex toys are better than males because they are always hard, vibrates and has lumpy beads, my self esteem will go down the hill.

        • strikerzebra on 12/12/2014 - 16:12
          +9

          @lusicul:

          No man doesn't appreciate a blow job.

          Dump him now!

        • [Deactivated] on 12/12/2014 - 17:47
          +4

          Maybe a dildo for him?

        • kev98 on 12/12/2014 - 19:21
          +2

          i love you.

        • terrys on 13/12/2014 - 08:13
          +5

          @AznMitch:
          Guy wanders into the sex shop:

          " I want to return this blow-up doll, it's gone down on me three times".

          Guy behind him " I'll take two!"

          I'll get my coat….

        • captobvious on 13/12/2014 - 09:16
          -5

          revitalize your sex life, put it in the butt for excitement and you cant get knocked up if you take it in the butt, just becomes dunny waste afterwards

        • parisienne on 13/12/2014 - 12:47
          +6

          @lusicul: Ok sister,time to have a little girly chat.This guy is a whinging,boozing,tightarse who is crap in the sack and thinks $1 a time for an o#g@$m (his,not yours) is too much ? Oh hun,it is WAAAAY overdue for you to have a "we need to talk" talk and set him straight…..buy the damn condoms (and a copy of the Karma Sutra),booze less (maybe less need for previously mentioned Karma book)and quit the little girl whining or you will leave him (and his right hand)to live happily (and frugally)ever after.If this is how he is with just contraception,how the hell would he be if you were just as tight,didn't buy condoms/the pill etc,got pregnant and had a child ? I can hear it now "Damn baby.Every dirty nappy costs me $4 a time.Do we have to feed it ?" .Yep,really a guy you want to be with.

        • rodinthink on 13/12/2014 - 18:19

          @lusicul:

          Once you go Sybian your never come back

    • [Deactivated] on 12/12/2014 - 11:47
      +18

      ditch the dude

      Seriously then he can go out to clubs
      and see how much sex he can buy for a dollar

    • JimmyF on 12/12/2014 - 14:50

      GOD, his complaining about too much sex!? I know many many guys that would happily pay $1 to have sex with someone!

      • MrRandomnez on 13/12/2014 - 00:59
        +4

        Me for example.

        • Tal_Shiar on 13/12/2014 - 14:35

          "You're the kind of guy that would beg for sex… i should know, we can smell our own!"

    • Baghern on 12/12/2014 - 15:13
      +10

      I am asking for too much sex,

      I'm calling it … troll bait

    • boonanza on 12/12/2014 - 19:58

      If he's worried about nookie with a condom costing him $1 each time tell him how trying only once without a condom could cost him $500,000 over the next 18 years I'm sure it will stop him whinging…

    • Soundwave on 13/12/2014 - 08:33

      Ha ha ha ha. Tell him to go to the hospital or a clinic for free condoms.

      I feel sorry for you though. Sounds like him saying that $1 thing cheapens your love/sex life. To me he's pretty much saying he's paying for sex with you which not every girlfriend would want to hear.

    • [Deactivated] on 13/12/2014 - 09:30
      -5

      Try Coitus interruptus aka pull out.

    • whodidthat on 13/12/2014 - 16:09
      -2

      Tell him he needs to be thankful the government hasn't figured a way to introduce sexometers into the bedroom (yet) to tax it!

      • iridiumstem on 14/12/2014 - 10:43

        Please don't give them ideas.

        • whodidthat on 14/12/2014 - 10:55
          +1

          True, lol, but some can't take a joke though - so it seems.

        • iridiumstem on 14/12/2014 - 12:13
          +1

          @whodidthat: Political jokes, they always are hit or miss. Also, current government, it is highly likely that they would want to cut cost, grab taxes from everywhere and matrices are very expensive. So your joke was too close to reality maybe :P

        • whodidthat on 14/12/2014 - 12:18

          @AznMitch:

          There'd be a lot in financial straits if the did!

        • iridiumstem on 14/12/2014 - 12:32

          @whodidthat: I can just imagine in few years time when people stop having sex, they will try to subsidise sex by giving out free condoms. If this happens… Please, for the love of god, let's not name it after prime ministers like what we did with KRUDD money. I do not want to bring Mr. Abbott in my bed room, both figuratively and literally. What would we call it anyways, Abbottdom? Sounds bizarre and sounds like some sort of weird form of fetish.

        • whodidthat on 14/12/2014 - 14:56

          @AznMitch: A Tonydom. ROFL

    • nicksinternet on 14/12/2014 - 10:41
      +1

      Man complains woman asking too much for sex?
      Man complains sex costs him $1?

      This guy is so unfortunate.

  • derweep on 12/12/2014 - 11:01
    +12

    What the? That's just not on, if my girlfriend's giving me sex I'll buy her anything not whingeing about a pack of condom. Intimacy with a partner is well worth more than a pack of condom IMHO.

  • buneyha on 12/12/2014 - 11:06
    +16

    Find a guy who knows how to treat you well.
    I never ask my girl pay for anything.
    I think you're not asking the right question.

  • c64 on 12/12/2014 - 11:13
    +21

    wtf? $1 is too expensive? you definitely need to find someone better

    • lusicul on 12/12/2014 - 11:22
      +22

      He spends at least $100 on alcohol every weekend and complains about $1 condom.

      • nx1nx1 on 12/12/2014 - 11:26
        +7

        buy a case of beer, and sell it to him at $6 a bottle. then use that money for condoms!

      • Cheeper on 12/12/2014 - 11:42
        +22

        He is telling you where you rate. Would not be hard to find someone better than this surely?

        • lusicul on 12/12/2014 - 11:50
          +11

          Feeling pretty crap at the moment. I guess he's so used to girls throwing themselves at him. I don't know why I always go for the bad boys :(

        • Tal_Shiar on 12/12/2014 - 12:23
          +15

          @lusicul: don't feel crap, just know you deserve better

        • lusicul on 12/12/2014 - 13:11
          +5

          @Tal_Shiar:

          Thanks :)
          I just need to keep reminding myself that I deserve better.

      • [Deactivated] on 12/12/2014 - 11:49
        +6

        tell him to poke it into the bottles he seems to love so much

      • Almost Banned on 12/12/2014 - 14:38
        +11

        If he thinks $1 per condom is expensive he should see how expensive it gets when you don't use one

        (says the father of four beautiful and very wanted children)

  • Adz81 on 12/12/2014 - 11:14
    +2

    No… Just… No…

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