[NSFW] Who Should Be Paying for Condoms?

Hey guys, just curious, who usually pay for condoms? is it the male or female?

I have been dating this guy for few months and the other day he complained about how expensive condoms are and he wanted me to start paying for condoms. But when I asked him if he would pay for birth control pills too if I were to start taking pills. He said NO.

Just wondering if it's normal for guys, especially in Australia to ask the girlfriend to chip in for condoms?

Thanks in advance

Update: Broke up with him, cried my eyes out but I will eventually be alright (I hope soon). Thanks to everyone for all the kind hearted messages and advices. It does helps to know that there are so many kind people out there

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  • +245

    Time to find a new guy? That should answer your question…

    Better be careful though, if he doesn't want to pay for condoms he might be an Ozbargainer..

    • +29

      plus 1 for new guy

      • +6

        Plus two for new guy.

        If he wants sex, cover up!

    • yeah, the worst is he bought the one listed on ozbargain before……. the one that broke ….. only 1 out of 10 is good (reviewed by ozbargainer)……. fake golden ring

    • +8

      Exactly, if I was a girl, I wouldn't want an offspring from someone this cheap and inconsiderate.

      This is absolutely the guys responsibility to buy.

      • +20

        If people from a forum where it's all about bargains and cheap items, if even those people are calling your boyfriend cheap, then you know it's time for a new boyfriend. That is the lowest low any one can hit. Before you dump him though, take a birth control pill, and do buy a condom next time and make a hole in it with a pin. Then after s*x, tell him that condom leaked. Call him few weeks later and say you are pregnant, but you don't want abortion. That will teach him a lesson.

        • +5

          Make sure you take the pill for at least a week first to be effective

        • +15

          Yeah, that's a great plan.

          Take "a" birth control pill, which will be totally ineffective unless you've been taking for more than a month (and even then it is not 100% effective), then expose yourself to who knows what from the split condom of a guy you're going to dump.

          What a stupid idea.

    • +1

      If he was an Ozbargainer, he would have gotten a GOOD DEAL!

      • +1

        Or learn how to use Glad Wrap properly :)

    • +2
      1. How can ozbargainers call someone else cheap? Wouldn't a saver be a more compatible partner?
      2. It takes two to tango. You both enjoy the sex (I assume) therefore it is a logical argument to say that the price should be shared. This would include the pill too.

      My point, don't suggest axing a guy in what may be a perfectly good relationship over sharing costs on a website for cheapskates.

      Sorry for my first post being so negative.

      • understand we all seem quick to judge.
        But I am judging! It's one thing to thing something like that but to say it out loud to someone you've only been dating for a few months says to me he isnt that concerned about how it will seem or come across to her and he doesnt value her enough as a woman and his partner.
        You know those signs you have while dating and at the end of the breakup you just wish you'd broken up back then? Well I hope this sign isnt in vain for this chickie.

      • You have to understand that if you look at the timestamp, they are really random as in some people wrote things after someone has replied to another person's post. If you have a read through, then you will see where some of the comments are coming from.

      • Are you the boyfriend? :P

  • +31

    this thread has made my day.

    • +2

      I was going to say "Where did that come from"

  • +32

    If he doesn't want to pay for condoms imagine if you lived together and you had actual expenses, if he is having sex with you he should at least pay for the condoms.

    • +11

      agree that condoms should be purchased by the guy and could also be used as a judge of character but your justification is stupid.

      you make it sound like the guy should be grateful and not something both of you enjoy.

    • +6

      … if he is having sex with you he should AT LEAST pay for the condoms…

      HA HA… What an idiotic analogy! Since female provides the vagina, the male should AT LEAST pay for the condoms!

      • +3

        she's definitely not having sex too? Only the dude?
        I always used to buy the condoms but then I do the "manly" (sexist) stuff around her house too.
        I just pick and dump a pack in her grocery basket and she does give me the look, but I think that means "you horny f&^^" :-D
        If we can share cab charges, drinks, food then whats the big deal about condoms.

    • +5

      If you don't leave him now, he will start splitting toilet rolls with you.

  • +70

    Just offer to go halfsies if it's that much of an issue for his wallet??? Although might cause some problems when you have to tape the two halves back together again. ;)

    You could of course offer to help save money by reducing sex by 50% , and you may find he discovers some cash in his mattress that he had forgotten about.

  • +3

    LMAO he should have bought these when they were on special…. https://www.ozbargain.com.au/node/166912

  • +55

    Nah, he's not an ozbargainer. He buys condoms from Coles at full price and now whinging about how it costs $1 per condom. He said I am asking for too much sex, and each time we have sex it costs him $1.

    But he doesn't mind spending his money on booze.

    • +38

      I think you need a dildo not a Boozo :)

      (Bozo Boozo)

      • +1

        The best reply I have read all year!
        Damn, maybe not! You altered it!

      • +12

        Ha ha, yeah I am thinking of getting myself a dildo for Xmas, LOL. Anyone know where to get good one? :D

        • +11

          Oh great…looked up an online shop on Google that was really well priced and thought I'd check to see if it was still around. I couldn't find it but now it looks like I've signed up to a weeks worth of Google ads for naughty hookups and singles websites yay! o.O

        • +3

          @Hipmumma:

          Oh no!! Sorry to hear that :(

          Thanks for the effort :)

        • Catch of the day had a deal going on, I still can access it. Not sure whether they are good ones, but some of them look… creative.

          Am I allowed to post the link on here?

        • +6

          @Hipmumma:

          get Adblock Plus. It's ad-free bliss.

        • @Hipmumma: I thought that was where the fun lies…

        • @scrimshaw:

          Thanks I'll have to do that! :) bit awkward if my son saw those ads lol

        • @AznMitch:

          Apparently but only for the small contribution of your credit card details and spamming of your email address :p

        • @Hipmumma:

          I doubt it, just very expensive psychiatrist bills…

        • +1

          @scrimshaw: I was a long time ad block plus user. But have recently taken it off. Unfortunately it will cause your browser to chew a lot of memory as the css it includes has gotten quite large and loads for every frame

          If you are worried about ad targeting just use Incognito mode.

        • +8

          Woolworths usually sells packaged carrots for $2/kg.
          You can make carrot juice to serve for Xmas.

        • +4

          @Cheapo333: I personally prefer cucumber salad. I usually go for the continental ones, but when I feel for something exotic… Those long thick Lebanese cucumber. It always leaves me satisfied.

        • +6

          @AznMitch:

          Lettuce not get carried away now

        • +5

          @Hipmumma:

          Lettuce turnip the beet.

        • catch of the day has been having few naughty sales lately…

        • @AznMitch:

          if you buy from Catch of the day

          you will definitely catch something…

        • +3

          Hitachi magic wand, we have one =D

          http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hitachi_Magic_Wand

        • @tyler.durden: Pokemons? There were ones that looked like pokemons…

        • -1

          @AznMitch:

          more like STDs

        • @tyler.durden:

          Gonorrhea! Herpes! I choose you!

        • -1

          @scrimshaw:

          Those pokemons are nasty…

          continues to poison you even after they finished their attack

        • @scrimshaw: This explains so much yet so little about why Ash goes around every single region collecting those "pokemons"…

        • kann ich Ihren Dildo sein?? Giggity Giggity Giggity Goo

          https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVFHkAzWAnc

        • @Hipmumma:

          CTRL + Shift + N

    • +4

      Id buy that for a dollar

    • +36

      He is complaining that you want too much sex?

      Are you sure he is a man?

      • +18

        I know right? I am just not sure if its me or him who has a problem.

        It's not like I am asking for sex all the time. It's just that I am easily aroused and usually when I see him I get very excited. We see each other about 4 times a week.

        He only wants to have sex about twice a week

        • +8

          Only way a guy would ever say no to sex is if the sex is boring and repetetive but I assume that isn't the case his if you are super horny.

        • +24

          He's very lazy in bed and doesn't like to do a lot of things. All he does is lie down and let me do all the work.

        • +5

          @lusicul:

          Whaaaaat? So he won't pay for condoms and the sex is crap?

        • +6

          @strikerzebra:

          Yes, the sex is pretty crap :(

        • +5

          @lusicul: you really should have a "we need to talk" moment

        • +30

          @Tal_Shiar:

          More like a "find another guy" moment.

        • @lusicul:

          I just thought of something… if he just lies there… get yourself one of those japanese sex dolls (I think they have male models)… It'd be the same thing.

        • +10

          @ProjectZero:

          LOL, I think I should. At least with the sex doll I don't have to give blow job for 20 minutes beforehand. Not that I mind giving one but it sucks when it's not being appreciated.

        • +2

          You do need to blow it though. If you catch my drift.

          Also, I realised why you didn't want to post your photos.

        • +13

          @lusicul: Who are you divine lady, I would spend $5 per condom if I get 20 minute BJ before sex..
          god bless you :) and seriously, ditch the kid

        • +2

          @Professor Chaos:

          Butters! You're grounded… you're underage!

          @AznMitch

          I believe there are some that do not require blow up.

        • @ProjectZero: True, but it ruins the "blow" job joke. Also, if I start accepting that sex toys are better than males because they are always hard, vibrates and has lumpy beads, my self esteem will go down the hill.

        • +9

          @lusicul:

          No man doesn't appreciate a blow job.

          Dump him now!

        • +4

          Maybe a dildo for him?

        • +2

          i love you.

        • +5

          @AznMitch:
          Guy wanders into the sex shop:

          " I want to return this blow-up doll, it's gone down on me three times".

          Guy behind him " I'll take two!"

          I'll get my coat….

        • -5

          revitalize your sex life, put it in the butt for excitement and you cant get knocked up if you take it in the butt, just becomes dunny waste afterwards

        • +6

          @lusicul: Ok sister,time to have a little girly chat.This guy is a whinging,boozing,tightarse who is crap in the sack and thinks $1 a time for an o#[email protected]$m (his,not yours) is too much ? Oh hun,it is WAAAAY overdue for you to have a "we need to talk" talk and set him straight…..buy the damn condoms (and a copy of the Karma Sutra),booze less (maybe less need for previously mentioned Karma book)and quit the little girl whining or you will leave him (and his right hand)to live happily (and frugally)ever after.If this is how he is with just contraception,how the hell would he be if you were just as tight,didn't buy condoms/the pill etc,got pregnant and had a child ? I can hear it now "Damn baby.Every dirty nappy costs me $4 a time.Do we have to feed it ?" .Yep,really a guy you want to be with.

        • @lusicul:

          Once you go Sybian your never come back

    • +18

      ditch the dude

      Seriously then he can go out to clubs
      and see how much sex he can buy for a dollar

    • GOD, his complaining about too much sex!? I know many many guys that would happily pay $1 to have sex with someone!

      • +4

        Me for example.

        • "You're the kind of guy that would beg for sex… i should know, we can smell our own!"

    • +10

      I am asking for too much sex,

      I'm calling it … troll bait

    • If he's worried about nookie with a condom costing him $1 each time tell him how trying only once without a condom could cost him $500,000 over the next 18 years I'm sure it will stop him whinging…

    • Ha ha ha ha. Tell him to go to the hospital or a clinic for free condoms.

      I feel sorry for you though. Sounds like him saying that $1 thing cheapens your love/sex life. To me he's pretty much saying he's paying for sex with you which not every girlfriend would want to hear.

    • -5

      Try Coitus interruptus aka pull out.

    • -2

      Tell him he needs to be thankful the government hasn't figured a way to introduce sexometers into the bedroom (yet) to tax it!

      • Please don't give them ideas.

        • +1

          True, lol, but some can't take a joke though - so it seems.

        • +1

          @whodidthat: Political jokes, they always are hit or miss. Also, current government, it is highly likely that they would want to cut cost, grab taxes from everywhere and matrices are very expensive. So your joke was too close to reality maybe :P

        • @AznMitch:

          There'd be a lot in financial straits if the did!

        • @whodidthat: I can just imagine in few years time when people stop having sex, they will try to subsidise sex by giving out free condoms. If this happens… Please, for the love of god, let's not name it after prime ministers like what we did with KRUDD money. I do not want to bring Mr. Abbott in my bed room, both figuratively and literally. What would we call it anyways, Abbottdom? Sounds bizarre and sounds like some sort of weird form of fetish.

        • @AznMitch: A Tonydom. ROFL

    • +1

      Man complains woman asking too much for sex?
      Man complains sex costs him $1?

      This guy is so unfortunate.

  • +12

    What the? That's just not on, if my girlfriend's giving me sex I'll buy her anything not whingeing about a pack of condom. Intimacy with a partner is well worth more than a pack of condom IMHO.

  • +16

    Find a guy who knows how to treat you well.
    I never ask my girl pay for anything.
    I think you're not asking the right question.

  • +21

    wtf? $1 is too expensive? you definitely need to find someone better

    • +22

      He spends at least $100 on alcohol every weekend and complains about $1 condom.

      • +7

        buy a case of beer, and sell it to him at $6 a bottle. then use that money for condoms!

      • +22

        He is telling you where you rate. Would not be hard to find someone better than this surely?

        • +11

          Feeling pretty crap at the moment. I guess he's so used to girls throwing themselves at him. I don't know why I always go for the bad boys :(

        • +15

          @lusicul: don't feel crap, just know you deserve better

        • +5

          @Tal_Shiar:

          Thanks :)
          I just need to keep reminding myself that I deserve better.

      • +6

        tell him to poke it into the bottles he seems to love so much

      • +11

        If he thinks $1 per condom is expensive he should see how expensive it gets when you don't use one

        (says the father of four beautiful and very wanted children)

  • +2

    No… Just… No…

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