How Do You Deal with People Who Don't Shout Their Round of Drinks?

LDarthVaper on 10/08/2018 - 10:26
Last edited 10/08/2018 - 11:14 by 1 other user

I'm a fifo worker, and it's not at all uncommon that my crew drinks after work. Most of the time everyone buys their own drinks, but every now and then I am asked to buy their drink cos they don't have their wallet on them, or they are just left with coins after spending cash. I oblige after they pledge to return the drink the next time, but they never do,

Another situation is when 1 person asks for a for a drink who I know will get my drink back, but then 1 or 2 chime in and say I dont have a drink (I have a pack on the table-easily clear and presently) can you spot us for now I'll get you back, but of course they never do.

How do you deal with these people? I'm at wits end with this after work social conundrum, might even stop drinking with these leaches.

Of course I could just bring it up that I am owed many times over, but im not that way inclined, cos I'm a super nice guy. But I might have to lay down the law though in the future and show my asshole side and put these fuckers in their place.

Your thoughts or share your similar experience, doesn't necessarily have to have a resolution.

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Comments

  • shanakatak on 10/08/2018 - 10:35
    +19

    Tell them it's their shout when it's their turn. Just a firm but polite "Right, [name here] your shout"

    If they don't reciprocate when prompted just rip into them the next time. "I'll get ya one when you start shouting back ya tightarse"

    • DarthVaper on 10/08/2018 - 10:45
      -1

      Yeh it's possible to go in at this angle, but since it's a fifo situation, gotta go to work with them 10 or 11 hrs later for another 12 hr grind (local camp pub,) . In a weekender situation where everyone goes home and you see these people once a week or fortnight or month, I'd go full @-hole mode for sure.

      • dcep on 10/08/2018 - 11:10
        +1

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  • mreddie on 10/08/2018 - 10:36
    +1

    Got a mate that does this constantly and it always ends up he shouts one round and everyone else does 3-4. He's also good at doing a round when most people are still drinking and not asking for a drink yet, or avoids those drinking spirits on his round trip. Pretty annoying, not an easy one.

    • DarthVaper on 10/08/2018 - 11:11
      +2

      You sure he's a mate? Lol. Nah everyone knows someone like this. I know someone with the trick of buying more expensive drinks when he's being shouted, but then when it's his turn to shout, buys everyone cheaper drinks.

  • HighAndDry on 10/08/2018 - 10:37
    +2

    I oblige after they pledge to return the drink the next time

    You make a note and stop shouting them drinks. Something like "Ah (profanity) man sorry my car payment's coming up and I'm gonna be flat broke."

    1 or 2 chime in and say I dont have a drink

    Brush them off jokingly (but firmly), something like "Yeah you and everyone else - get in line mate."

    The trick is to say no, firmly, but with a smile and a laugh.

  • GG57 on 10/08/2018 - 10:47
    +1

    Doesn't sound like much of a social place to work.
    At times when I've found myself in (on-going) similar situations, I've tried to find those that are happy to return the shout and that seems to naturally form a smaller group, to the exclusion of the others.

  • Fergy1987 on 10/08/2018 - 10:51
    +5

    I'd just give them the big "GF" and buy my own drinks and no one else

  • DarthAntz on 10/08/2018 - 11:31
    +10

    sounds like your 20 years old. this is a conundrum you must face when growing up.

    nice guys finish last, and you'll be taken advantage of because you think you're being nice. dont think like that.

    Best way outcome is to not drink. you dont owe anyone anything.

    • DarthVaper on 10/08/2018 - 11:39
      -2

      I'm 35. but since it's a fifo situation, gotta go to work with them 10 or 11 hrs later for another 12 hr grind (local camp pub,)I stay civil .

      In a weekender situation where everyone goes home and you see these people once a week or fortnight or month, I'd go full @-hole mode for sure.

      • HighAndDry on 10/08/2018 - 12:55
        +4

        You can stay civil without bending over and serving as the barmaid. As I said - saying no with a smile or a laugh and it's usually all good. Haven't ever had anyone get offended because they didn't get a free drink.

        • DarthVaper on 10/08/2018 - 13:27
          +1

          I'm either nice or full @-hole mode. I don't have a middle setting lol. But yeh I'll try see if I can integrate the middle ground approach to saying no. Lol

      • acoma on 11/08/2018 - 11:58

        Man up and say No!

    • outlander on 14/08/2018 - 18:36

      Worst advice

  • Cheaplikethebird on 10/08/2018 - 11:34
    +2

    After the first one isn't as simple as "You still owe me from last time?"

  • Ughhh on 10/08/2018 - 11:41
    +5

    You teach people how to treat you, so becareful of being too nice all the time.

  • try2bhelpful on 10/08/2018 - 12:16

    If they say they don't have cash, or only coins, then say "just put it on your credit/debit card, I'm sure the bar won't care". If they say they don't have a card you could then start a discussion on how good cards are and a comparison between debit cards and credit cards until you drive them nuts. They will probably then try to leech of someone less annoying next time.

    Never been in a situation where people chime up they want a drink when you don't ask a general question of the group; then I don't work FIFO. Fortunately people are normally fighting over who will get the next round for everyone.

    This is a tricky situation as you don't want to be seen as a "tightarse" but you don't want to be taken advantage of as well. It depends on how often this occurs and how expensive the drinks are. The odd couple of beers, every now and again, then live with it. If it happens more often you might want to cry poor to the people asking for the drinks.

    If there is someone who does this, a lot, then you might want a quiet word with them outside the group. Ask them if they are having money issues - this may be the case. The problem is they may, genuinely, not have enough cash but they don't want to be ostracised by not going out with everyone else. The Australian "drink after work" culture is very strong.

  • Blitzfx on 10/08/2018 - 12:40
    +1

    I would just lie and say I forgot my wallet too. I would then only come prepared with a few coins, enough to buy only myself a drink.

  • Youfah Mizzum on 10/08/2018 - 13:08
    +1

    I would just lie and say I forgot my wallet too

    But instead of lying, actually leave your wallet back at the room. No wallet no beer. "Nows your time to pay me back, my wallets at home."

  • GourmetFoodie on 10/08/2018 - 13:52
    +1

    Hate this problem! I've been on the reverse end where people have insisted on buying my drink, then it's frustrating as I have to pay them back with the next round (since I believe in paying back) and of course you get your freeloaders along the way…ends up being bloody expensive when im on a budget!

    I think some great advice has been given….you need to lay down the law but with a smile/joke and some charm. Another alternative is to say you've run out of money for the night.

    • GG57 on 10/08/2018 - 13:55

      Most 'shouts' that I have experienced have not bothered if someone does not opt in. You can still be sociable, but state a valid reason for not joining in.

  • monharb on 11/08/2018 - 08:12

    As a foreigner coming from a different culture (Asia), I initially find people here super nice and giving. Then I realised that they were not necessarily nicer than people of other countries. It is just they like to act nice and make people feel great (which is good!) but at the cost of avoiding being honest or personal. Where I am from, the situation is very easy to solve, people just tell them stop being a tight ass and pay what's due. Of course it is not "nice" but if you are honest to each other everyone ends up happy in the end, or at least you will know to rid of people you don't get along with.

    If you are a "super nice guy" as you claimed you wouldn't have cared about people not paying their turn, don't pretend and just speak your mind. You are just as nice as a regular person, who is happy to shout but needed reciprocation, and that is okay.

    • DarthVaper on 11/08/2018 - 11:35
      -1

      Gotta keep it somewhat civil as this is a fifo situation and work with these people the next day until swing is over. I think the best thing for my situation is to just not drink with these people.

      • acoma on 11/08/2018 - 11:59
        +2

        Enough with the fifo excuse.

  • [Deactivated] on 11/08/2018 - 08:31

    The leaches and conartists target the nice people , takes a while to learn this.
    Plenty of parasites out there , and their the ones that will treat you like you're an idiot, just tell them to fark off and by their own fn beer,
    and shout yourself a cup of concrete sweetheart.

  • JIMB0 on 11/08/2018 - 09:03

    cos I'm a super nice guy

    There's your problem right there.

    • DarthVaper on 11/08/2018 - 11:33
      -4

      I work with these people on a remote location the next day, would go full a-hole otherwise. I think I've said this a few times.

      • [Deactivated] on 11/08/2018 - 11:57
        +2

        You're not getting it,
        are you a MAN or a farking mouse????
        Just buy your own drinks then if you can't stand up for yourself,
        and stop your whinging.

        • DarthVaper on 11/08/2018 - 12:02
          -2

          Lol obviously you're not a fifo worker.

        • [Deactivated] on 11/08/2018 - 12:53

          @DarthVaper: lolly
          no, not anymore.

  • Lastchancetosee on 11/08/2018 - 09:25
    +1

    Bikies. I've always wanted to write this!

    • try2bhelpful on 11/08/2018 - 09:26
      +4

      They’ll probably want a round, as well.

    • marquise on 11/08/2018 - 22:33

      Having to shout bikies drinks and never being able to complain about it….

  • Peck on 12/08/2018 - 11:21
    +2

    I understand exactly where the OP is coming from.
    With really close friends you can 'take the micky' and say something to get them to shout.
    But it is not easy with people that you are not close to. You may like these people and not want to offend. I live in hope that the next time that you have a drink together they will remember and return the shout.
    And then there are people who think that you are just being a very generous person in buying them a drink!! Especially non-Australians who may not know the 'shouting' etiquette.

  • outlander on 14/08/2018 - 18:47

    Another situation is when 1 person asks for a for a drink who I know will get my drink back, but then 1 or 2 chime in and say I dont have a drink (I have a pack on the table-easily clear and presently) can you spot us for now I'll get you back, but of course they never do.

    Create a situation where you need to borrow money. Say $100. Then never pay them back. Either they don't lend it to you, in which case they're not your friends and f them, or they do and you never pay it back. Problem solved

    Otherwise, just say no. When they whine and ask why your doing it for X, you say 'Its because X is prettier'

    • DarthVaper on 16/08/2018 - 12:55

      Haha, stealth steal vs stealth steal. Has merits this one.

    • try2bhelpful on 16/08/2018 - 15:15

      “X is prettier” might be an interesting gambit if it is an all male FIFO crew.

  • Lennox on 14/08/2018 - 19:44
    +1

    Just an idea you could always say "yeah I'll shout drinks" and come back with pichers of iced water and just say "Sorry guys I'm a bit short this week its all I could afford.". They may call you a tightarse and think twice about ask you to shout them a round again.. but I think you've done your fair share.

  • Chubbsmcfatflabs on 17/08/2018 - 13:42

    just don't get in a "shout" to begin with…Problem solved.

  • Meowcat on 23/08/2018 - 00:51

    Call the worst one whisper relentlessly.

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