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FREE eBook- Kid-Friendly Ways to Change Behavior - Fun Conflict Management Tactics for Parents

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Kid-Friendly Ways To Change Behavior - Fun conflict Management Tactics For Parents
Book Description from Amazon:
Parenting and fun are two words that are rarely combined. In fact, say those two words together out loud to a parent and you'll likely get a snort, a laugh or a roll of the eyes, if not a look that says 'You either haven't tried parenting yet or are seriously out of your mind'. This is because being a parent means having to negotiate with your child on a daily basis and let's face it - you end up losing most of the time (if not losing your mind).
This book 'Kid-Friendly Ways To Change Behavior' lets you know you are not alone in the problems you face. More than that, it gives you practical easy-to-follow-tips on how to influence your child to be the kind of child you want him or her to be while accomplishing being the parent you want to be.
The author, Asaf Shani, has worked in conflict management for 16 years and during his conflict and negotiation workshops for corporate executives, he noticed that questions would arise about how to apply the techniques at home. Following his unique methodology to solve lingering conflicts, students came back to him, excited to share their success.
Encouraged by the success of his students, Asaf tried these methods on his own three daughters and was delighted to discover that their devious conspiracies were powerless against these practical techniques. (Well, not powerless, but the techniques helped Asaf and his wife stay one step ahead of their shenanigans.)
Now you can use these tools to acquire a new perspective on family conflicts and influence your kids through enjoyable means - enjoyable both for you and for them. Indeed, by following the tried and tested techniques detailed in this book, you are sure to resolve more of your conflicts with your children and in the process, have less conflicts with your partner. And who knows? You just might find that parenting is fun, after all.
Author: Asaf Shani; Editor: Jack Price.
Length: 78 pages.
Published: Jan 2, 2013.
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  • This is greate!!

  • I'm Happy you like the book. I hope you'll find it benificial when coming to cope with domestic conflicts

  • +3

    Hi rep,

    How do we claim the free wooden spoon?

    • +2

      bahahah

      +1000

  • Hi pmupsinep,

    I'm sorry, I don't follow, claim the free wooden spoon?

    • +5

      the free wooden spoon would be very useful if the ebook can't help.
      if it is a hard-copy, you don't need the spoon, as the book itself is sufficient.

  • hluu0111,

    Do you really want to establish your relationship with your kids (assuming you have any) on wooden spoons?
    If you are a parent, or when you become one, you'll soon discover that 'wooden spoons' don't yield long term cooperation, build up resentment and guilt.
    Most parents are seeking soft and more efficient strategies – as I offer in this book. And many of them report that by using these techniques they were able to facilitate collaboration in a much easier and fun way than any other (including 'wooden spoons') strategies.

    • +2

      c'mon…
      I was only following the joke from pmupsinep!
      No hard feeling bro

    • Yes, but you are being a bit simplistic.
      An occasional smack can be very effective and efficient with pre-schoolers.
      But for persuading an older kid to keep their room clean, you need more sophisticated techniques.

      • manic,

        I can understand why my answer might be perceived as somewhat simplistic. This indeed wasn’t the intention nor is it the situation when raising kids.

        In the book I use the term “Sandbox” as a term which "determine the boundaries of the discussion in this book. The idea is to create a space big enough to play in while keeping it well-defined and protected."

        Where one draws the line of the "Sandbox" is totally up to him/her. Yet, without any doubt such a line must be drawn as without it there is no "Sandbox".

        Well define sanctions are essential in creating boundaries. Whether corporal punishment should signify "Sandbox" boundaries is again a question each parent answers to himself. Personally, I vote against it.

    • +2

      you'll soon discover that 'wooden spoons' don't yield long term cooperation

      It's been working well for hundreds of years…

      • +1

        jv 4,

        Interesting point.
        Would you say 'Wooden Spoon' created what I call in the book H.H (Happy – Healthy) kids or just obedient ones?
        Do you think that whatever worked 100 years ago (assuming for a second it has) is still valid now?
        My own personal point of view is quite clear I guess from just raising the above questions.
        Yet, I don't claim for a second 'I'm holding the light' regarding the issue

        • Proverbs 13:24….

        • @jv: Spare the rod, spoil the rep?

        • +1

          hit the rep, hit the rep!

      • +1

        Beating children is just an admission you are out of control or out of smart options. If you need to beat your children to maintain discipline, get some help. Talk to other parents, read a book or do a course.

        • I totally agree. Raising your voice or, worse than that, using the 'spoon' is admitting your failure.
          Somewhat I can't but think that all those who 'humorlessly' offer corporal punishments are afraid to admit their lack of skills.

    • -2

      won't be wasting my time on this book, unless maybe to try to understand what's going wrong with our society.

      spare the rod and spoil the child.

      • -1

        Do you really think hitting children with a stick is a good idea? What sick book did you read that in?

        • +1

          lol I've lost friends who aren't willing to exercise corporal punishment and don't like hearing such advice.
          I've witnessed hundreds of people who got spanked as a child and have a fine relationship with their parents in adult life, and I've seen plenty of brats "not brought up" by parents who don't have enough love to inflict tough love. It's harder to smack your child than to let them be a brat, but the results are proven.

          My philosophy is to learn from those who've gone before me, and never take unproven advice.

        • I think all parents agree that the key for raising H.H (Happy – Healthy) kids is tons of unconditional love + setting boundaries. Quite obvious I know.

          Whether corporal punishment should be applied when the well predefine boundaries are breached is a matter of personal attitude.
          Personally, I vote against physical punishment. I've never used corporal punishment with my own 3 kids and they are well educated.

          I tend to believe, or at least hope so, that also parents who favors corporal punishment regard it as a last resort tool and definitely not something that should be applied frequently.

          As I claim in the book, there is SO many soft – empowering – respecting – fun ways to deal with conflicts than using corporal punishment.
          The book is FREE until tomorrow (AU time) so I urge all parents to download their FREE copy and at least consider another way.

      • c'mon…"spare the rod and spoil the child" doesn't mean hitting/punishing your kid. it means doing the right thing for YOUR KID as apposed of doing what YOU would like to do.

        Saying 'no' when it's the right thing for your kid when the easier thing for you would be to say 'yes' is 'not sparing the rod'.

        Punishments are usually (not always!) selfish acts as it is the easier thing, usually not the right thing, to do.

        Investing time and thought in educating your kids in the soft ways I offer in the book IS 'using the rod' as apposed to using the 'Spoon'.

        • A rod is a kind of stick, designed for hitting things.

          People who advocate hitting children to keep them in order are always referring to this sick sparing the rod idea.

          If you want to advocate responsible parenting you shouldn't refer to metaphors that some people are likely to take literally and wind up beating their children with sticks.

        • Thank you for pointing this up.

          Indeed, my idea was everything but beating up one's children (as I guess one can conclude by the name of my book).
          All the soft - assertive techniques offered in the book were tested thousands of times by my clients (I deliver conflict management and negotiation workshop for almost 17 years) and by myself (I have 3 children of my own, in November it will be 4 :-)) and proved to yield positive results.

          I personally think that whoever uses violence, let alone towards his kids, is a true loser.

        • All the soft - assertive techniques offered in the book were tested thousands of times by my clients

          Can you please answer with all honesty that in these thousands of times that they were tested by your clients, that on not one occasion your techniques failed and the parents had to resort to some alternative method?

        • +1

          c'mon… do you know of a technique that works 100% of the times?
          I don't nor did I say 'mine' does.

          Yet, and that's a big yet, it's easier moving from empowering approach (soft – assertive) to paternalistic one (hard – aggressive) than the other way around. So by using 'my' methods you retain a wider selection of attitudes.

          I'll tell you what, use one (or more) of the techniques I offer in the book next time you have a problem you'd like to solve with your kids. If it works, you write about it commending yourself for becoming a better parent. If it doesn't (you can still write about it) and you'll get a free consulting session to figure out why hasn't it worked

  • +1

    Right… what a relief…
    Maybe I do have to loosen up a bit… :-)

  • +1

    I just bribe my kids with cheap stuff I get from Meritline or Tmart etc… It works everytime !!!

    • +1

      Bribing might get you short term cooperation. Yet, it will not let your kid adopt the values behind whatever it is you're bribing him/her to do and you'll discover that along time you have to increase the bribe in order to yield the same level of cooperation.

      I take it that you don't speak seriously. Or?

      • Yet, it will not let your kid adopt the values behind whatever it is…

        It may help them become a CEO or a senior government minister one day though…

        • +1

          So if I understand you correctly, you would like the CEOs and government ministers in your country, let alone your kids, to have no morals?
          I suggest that we agree that we disagree :-)

        • +4

          you would like the CEOs and government ministers in your country…to have no morals?

          Baby, that ship sailed a long time ago!!!

        • New boats are leaving the harbor every day

        • There's none leaving ours… but there certainly is plenty landing!!!

        • Well, I guess we can't solve all of world's problems at once

  • +3

    Having 2 young children I just asked my wife if she was interested in this book and, as it is for free, she replied "Why not!" (Which was an obvious response for any OzBargainer!)
    But before even reading the book, I'm beginning to question its writings. Just from the exchanges on this posting you seem to be lacking what I think is a vital part of parenting in the modern age. And that is… a sense of humour!!!

    • +2

      Snoop 49,

      Reading my answers I must admit that I do come out a little 'stiff' (euphemism for: "taking things too damn seriously")

      Claiming to have a sense of human is like a lady declaring her chastity - just by declaring, everybody starts questioning…

      I think the reason I come across as having no sense of human is that I prefer being condemned as having no sense of humor than tagging along with people's remarks and doing harm to those who don't understand I'm being humorous…

      Reading what I just wrote, I think I've falling into the stiffness trap again…

    • When it comes to parenting, its worth hearing out varying opinions. Just because someone doesn't have the same sense of humour as you doesn't mean they have nothing to teach you.

      • I totally agree

  • Or you could try the adult friendly way

    • Yeah, but it's no bargain. The book wins at $0.

      It seems the book is somehow locked into the Amazon playpen. I can't figure out a way of downloading the book to my local cache for reading it on my preferred e-reader.

      • +1

        Indeed it does!
        That's the whole trick with Amazon - you can only read the book on their devices - Kindle (hardware) or different Kindle software (for example Kindle for pc/cellphone app).

    • … having a well trained dog indeed.

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