Someone close to me is sick and we're putting together a bucket list. We could use some help/inspiration…
Thank you.
JJB
Let's Carpe the hell out of this Diem!
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I'd likely forget about recreational drugs unless you're keen. I'd second the earlier idea of an RV roadtrip with your kids. Camp under the stars (with air conditioned comfort), eat beans, snags cooked on an open fire, and melt some marshmellos.
Peace.
I just want to play tennis on a clay court
- Plant a tree. I like the thought that it'll be there long after I'm gone.
- Raise some chooks and have a freshly-laid egg for breakfast.
- Learn a dead language, just because.
- Teach my children everything I've learned about life, which is pretty much summed up here
- Go home.
"Planting a tree" reminds me of a story I've heard. Well two, actually.
One was, someone plants a tree that takes 30~40 years to mature just so that their grandchildren can have the fruits from the tree (I think the tree was used as a symbolic representation). Second one was, a guy plants trees on the sides of a road so that when their children become older, they get to walk through the road with the trees providing shades for them.
I was thinking of doing something similar; buying a bottle of wine on the year of my future child's birth (that's assuming that I can get married). Give it to the child as a present when the child turns 18.
OK, I should stop digressing. What I wanted to say was, the idea sounded lovely. Leaving something behind for future generation has that lovely feeling attached to it.
Its going to be a magnolia tree :) The kids chose it. They say the flowers smell just like me.
That sounds really lovely. I feel slightly bad because I've been thinking along the line of what fruit do I like?
Eh, me and my love for food. :P
"Blind Dinner" (totally black room and you are served meals and eat in the dark)
We have enough issues with sanitation and hygiene in modern-day restaurants
Im getting sick of reading the most foolish suggestions on someone's bucket list that will offer no comfort or fulfillment whatsoever.
e.g:
- Dye your hair
- swim naked
- have a fresh egg breakfast from chooks you raised. (assuming he/she has a house)
- plant a tree
- sing a song..howbout something actually fulfilling and ever-lasting?
- Personally meet (or contact) every person you've ever harmed verbally or physically and forgive them
- Donate some money to help the young in improvised nations, such as build a Well as they will always remember you
- Everyone has a family member or members who are estranged, offer to act as a mediator and bring them together. This always breaks down even the worst of cases
- Go to the PCYC or similar Police Youth Club and give a presentation and speech to the young teenagers that are full of mischief and trouble. Advise them that life is short and being a better citizen is more lasting that crime
- Finally, find out about the 1 supreme God who initially created you, there are 3 monotheistic religions, you will find one that makes the most sense. Get all 3 holy books.
What's with the last one? Why is the choice only limited to monotheistic religions?
Disclaimer: Only my scepticism keeps from being an atheist.
What's with the last one? Why is the choice only limited to monotheistic religions
Because a lot of the other non-monotheistic religions are (in majority) followed by a particular ethnic background. The 3 monotheistic religions are primarily ethnic-agnostic.
As for you being an Atheist, i'm just suggesting to the sick person that they turn to God on whatever life period remains for them.
Personally meet (or contact) every person you've ever harmed verbally or physically and forgive them
I like that.
"Hello, Tom? Its Jojo, from the third grade? Remember when I gave you that wedgie, and you peed yourself in front of everyone, and for the next 3 years everyone called you wetwedgie? Well, I've been doing some soul searching, and I've come to terms with some things, and I wanted to let you know I forgive you.I beg your pardon, do what to myself?"
have a fresh egg breakfast from chooks you raised. (assuming he/she has a house)
I don't. I'm house-sitting a friend's apartment.So what I really meant,and is actually on my bucket list is "steal a couple of freshly laid eggs from my ex's chooks.Break and enter into his kitchen, while he's (hopefully) still asleep and make myself an omelette using ingredients from his fridge."
Free omelette served with a healthy dose of (free) adrenaline rush. Can't beat that! :p
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Personally meet (or contact) every person you've ever harmed verbally or physically and forgive them
Didn't quite get that one. You harm them and then you forgive them?
I like the way woolfenstein and frostman are thinking - particularly about her kids. If time is limited, and have kids, I would be thinking less about selfish adrenaline rushes and mind-altering drugs, and more about the legacy you're leaving to your children.
Spending time with them, and making things to leave behind for them (whether letters, videos, poetry, photos together etc), would be the focus of my attention.
Buy a bucket.
Hey JJB, sorry to hear the news;
I would like to go on a holiday, not worrying about cash or anything else.
Does he/she like anything in particular? Take them to the ultimate of that (e.g. Likes AFL; take to AFL grand final, likes likes Hardcore Pawn Show take them to the shop etc etc, you get me)Become Batman
Travel around the world.
Become Batman, and then travel around the world.
Learn a musical number from a movie, or choregraph on, and then teach it to a bunch of friends (or in my case more probably a bunch of cash-strapped strangers)
Having a lot of people listen to every word you say, and follow every instruction to the letter, all to the beat of a rockin tune..If that ain't living I don't know what is.
I've taught my kids and their friends how to play the harmonica. They've more or less mastered Hey Jude and Stairway to Heaven. Its was simultaneously fun and hair-pullingly frustrating.
My friend doesn't play any musical intruments, although she
is a classically trained dancerlearned dance at school. So maybe she could teach them how to dance . Thank you for the suggestion.Ahhh when I say musical number, I mean more something like this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=umhKcl1Z52Iand thats how we do it on Broadway
well then, definitely right up her alley! * No sexual innuendo intended.
Haha, ofcourse, no-one would think that.
discretely kicks duffel bag full of dildo shaped objects back under the bedIs she a fan of Annie? What am I saying, who isn't.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-0bOH8ABpco
Her kids (and yours jarjar) could do the backup parts, and she could play the star of the show, Mrs Hannigan
Colombia, just grab your Spanish phrasebook and go. One of the most incredible and worthwhile countries in the world if you ask me, I loved my time there so much I almost never left!
cocaine!
The very last item on my bucket list is : To be allowed to die with dignity.
A long, long, long time from now. JJB, given Tas is on a leave of absence from OzB and you've been unhappy with the direction of your life lately, it is comments like this that lead me to ask: R U OK? Just remember nothing lasts forever - not even the bad stuff. When a bad day hits just remember you only have to get through one day at a time so take it easy and do what you can to make it through the day, even if it's something small (a favourite tv show, book, food, OzB etc). There will be a new day tomorrow and it will present new opportunities with the rising of the sun.
Hi Miss Dior :)
Thank you for your kind concern. He's ok.A friend has offered to take the kids fishing and he had to go along. If he was ever going to hurt himself, it would have been before that trip just so he could get out of it ;) He hates fishing!
He called earlier and it sounds like he's having fun :) I could hear the kids' happy chatter in the background. They're coming over to my place for lunch where I'm expected to cook their catch. But from what I understand, they've caught 1 fish so far but no one had the heart to knock it over the head , so they've released it back in the water. Doesn't look like we'll be having fish curryfor lunch after all :(
Take care,
Wikip.s: JJB is not stupid: he won't let a little stumble in the road be the end of a beautiful journey :)
Hi Wiki!
That is good to hear. I very much doubted that JJB would be that silly, but everyone has their breaking point… and we never know what's in another person's mind. Proof of that is that JJB was so shocked when you left. Someone close likes to say that depression and anxiety, probably a lot of mental illnesses, are "contagious" because they affect every member of a sufferer's family and those close to the sufferer can show their own "symptoms" from coping with the affects on their family member. It can be hard to cope for those who have an affected family member, but I have never heard one say anything other than they would sooner live with the sufferer than have a life without them (husbands and wives included). Then sometimes things turn around and the sufferer of mental illness has to be strong for an ill family member. Sometimes that even helps them, by giving them purpose and focus. Learning to manage an illness that can, and likely will, ebb and flow with life circumstances is difficult but very possible. Sufferer's just need to learn their triggers and place more importance on protecting their health and minimising triggers than the other so called "important" things of life like careers. It is entirely manageable. We have a wonderful programme here in NSW called "Partners in Recovery" which takes a holistic approach. Each individual just needs to find out what works for them and that takes time, often longer than they would like. I hope you know my empathy is real. Life can change in a matter of moments and the only lasting thing we have is our connections to our loved ones. Protecting them by isolating ourselves so they don't have to deal with our problems seems like an answer but rarely is. In fact it is a common mechanism of the mentally ill and may lead to flow on affects for all parties. Just something to think about. ;)
I hope JJB enjoys his fishing (I'm not really a fan either, especially at sea and certainly not in your southern part of Australia). It might be a lesson in how to relax since he seems like he is always on the go. I'm sure they'll have lots of stories about the one that got away and of course you will be expected to nod seriously and believe all of them. If he gets to like it, then it might be something to enjoy on a long hoped for trip to Mauritius. Looks like you will have to head to the local fish monger if you want that fish curry anytime soon. Enjoy your week. :)
Hello Ms Dior!
Just logged in quickly to say I'm ok. Taking a break from ozbargain for the foreseeable future. Much better for my mental health.
Like the twins wld say," a big hug from us" ms Dior
:-DThat's great! Yes a break can be a good thing. Don't know how you find the time for OzB (as great as it and the OzB community is). Enjoy your break. Have some fun with the family. Look forward to hearing from you when you feel the time is right. Positive thoughts headed your way. :)
*Miss Dior… Was half asleep when I typed that comment.
@Miss Dior: I typed ms instead of miss, as in Ms Dior rather than Miss Dior last night. Apologies for getting yr name wrong. Like I said, was half asleep when I did it:-)
That's OK. Either is fine, though the Dior company wouldn't think so. They must have paid marketers a pretty penny to come up with the name for that perfume.
Not so much something to add to the bucket list, more of a daily reminder:
Life is too short to wake up with regrets.So love the people who treat you right.Forget about those who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would most likely be worth it.