Child Accused of Bullying...
My child who's in middle school has been accused of bullying by the middle school coordinators yet again.
He was given a detention in term 1 for name calling and I was made aware of it too. He admitted to it and I talked to my child and talked some sense into him.
He was again accused of bullying in towards end of term 1 and he denied that incident. He was given one detention the very same day and was given two further detentions. He was accused of hitting someone in the change rooms with a plastic bag containing clothes. He said it was an accident as he was swinging the bag in front of him and when the other person passed by, it might have hit him. He also mentioned as some boys turned off the change room lights, it was pitch dark.
I went to the school to meet with the coordinators and they said that some other kids saw my child coming from the direction of the accuser and assumed that my son hit the boy. I argued that you can't punish someone on the basis of assumption. The other two detentions were subsequently cancelled.
They also mentioned that my child has a history of bullying other kids, which was a shock to me as he had never gotten into trouble in the junior school and I never got a single phone call regarding his behaviour.
Moreover, I told the coordinators that no matter what, my son wouldn't complain about small issues to them. That's just his nature.
This week again someone has complained that my son is calling them names and as usual my son is denying it. The coordinators are more than eager to punish my son without listening to his side of the story.
My son has told me that the other kid keeps staring at him regularly. But knowing my son, he will not go and complain.
The latest incident looks like again a case of one person's word against the other. He talked to the coordinators today but instead of hearing him out, they were intent on blaming him for the latest incident.
I don't know how to handle this situation as it is a matter of trust. My son owned up to his mistakes and as a result I fought for his right to be treated fairly.
Any advice in dealing with this is appreciated.