I am an old-time user of ozbargain but due to recent developments in my family, I couldn't resist posting it here as I need some genuine advice.
My 2.5-year-old is a healthy boy. Doing good with all physical activities. He can jump, climb, run etc. He has good eye contact and loves to play with his elder brother. He has no speech yet. Hardly one or two words but he does a lot of babbling (just fyi we are bi-lingual and speak 2 languages at home). His receptive language is also not very good. He cannot take simple instructions like " come here", "drink water" etc. He has no eating disorder, not fussy at all, no tantrums, and sleeps really well at night. He sometimes does hand flapping when he gets excited. He doesn't engage with other kids in childcare but he do parallel play which as per his childcare educators is normal at this young age.
From last 3 months we are having Speech Pathology and Occupational Therapy session once or twice a month. Last week we had a Griffith test to see his development. It is a standard test to figure out if the child is autistic or not. This test consist of toys, blocks, and cards which the doctor expects him to play in a certain manner. With some toys like car, blocks, puzzle he was very good. But with some toys like doll, cards, teacup etc he was not good. ( just FYI it was the first time he saw a doll in his life and the doctor was expecting him to comb doll hair and feed her with spoon. ( He does feed his mum with spoon sometimes) and when doctor gave him comb he combed his hair instead of doll's.
We thought he did pretty well in the Griffith test but his doctor thinks that he should be put into autism spectrum. To my understanding they want to put him in autism spectrum because of NDIS funding. With NDIS we can get more help.
It was a big blow for us. My wife is really upset and cried many times coz of this diagnosis. The doctor has given us time to think about it and we have to go back next week.
Our concern is that we don't want to label our child at such a young age. He is not disabled. Except for his speech and receptive language, I don't see any issue with him. Me and my wife we both earn well and we can afford to have speech pathology private sessions every week for at least a year. Just because of NDIS funding and extra money we think it will be unfair with my boy to label him with Autism. Even his Occupational Therapist think that he needs more Speech Pathology sessions then OT sessions.
Our biggest concern is that once they put him on autism spectrum. He will be treated differently everywhere like, school, playgroups etc.
We have doctor appointment coming next week. I would appreciate it if you guys can give us some valuable input as we really feel down at the moment. We are very confused if we should agree with the diagnosis or ask the doctor to give him some more time.
His hearing test is normal. So no issues with hearing as well.