Should My Friends Feel Sorry for Me for Buying Marked Down Items at The Supermarket?

I told 2 good friends that I like to buy marked down items at the supermarket. They're married. I especially like the ones with several discount stickers on them. For example a $7 bread down to 50 cents. I wouldn't normally buy such pricey bread. I said that those items were still good and are usually just close to their best before date, often the same day. I also enjoy the treasure hunting and the randomness of what I get.

One day, they told me that they were worried for me because I buy rotten food from the supermarket and that they hoped that I would eat better. What was funny about it was that they were genuinely concerned for me and were absolutely sincere. They live in a completely different world to mine. For example, one of their cars is worth $300,000 and it molested me but that's a story for another time.

Should my friends feel sorry for me for buying marked down items at the supermarket?

Comments

  • +2

    One day, they told me that they were worried for me because I buy rotten food from the supermarket and that they hoped that I would eat better. What was funny about it was that they were genuinely concerned for me and were absolutely sincere.

    See if they are happy to back up that sincere concern with a significant contribution to your household budget.

    And then just keep buying the knocked down stuff.

  • +4

    Ignore the negative comments. Live within your means and give your life meaning…how is purely your choice.

    Mark downs are a fantastic way to save our money, and support the store from higher prices, while doing our bit for assisting in a more sustainable environment - food production wise.

    The use by date on my milk is usually at least a week ago….. never had a bad one yet.

    Earning a mega higher than thou wage or salary does not make them a smarter or more knowledgeable or even a better person, but it does make them just way over paid with intellectual limitations below ozbargainers.

    • 1 week use by on milk? Good to see how far limits can be pushed.

      I opened shredded cheddar expired 6 months ago, didn't get ill.

  • +4

    who cares. i love a bargain but am not under the poverty line. it's about the thrill of saving a decent buck, WOOO!

  • +4

    You must be on Markdown Addicts Australia on Facebook.
    What a group that is. Everybody posts pictures of their expired food lol

  • +4

    I can afford full priced bread anyday. But I wouldn't stop shopping for bargains… Savings are savings no matter what your wealth is. Always am starting my shop from the odd bunch range and quick sale section :)

  • Well I think a true Ozbargainer should focus more on exploiting flybuys & EDR & gift card deals to buy everything for less than half price rather than hunting for expired food. I barely spent anything out of my own pocket this year at Woolies with all the free pts they have been given out.

    • Colesworths offers plus cheap short expiry food = basically free

  • +1

    Go find some other friends.

  • +3

    I always look for yoghurt near or past the use by date - it's already sour milk.

    • Where do you shop? The Coles I shop at won’t even sell dairy on the day of its use by let alone past it.

      • Yeah, I think Coles have cracked down a bit (maybe their second bite program). Might have more luck at IGA.

  • Why?

    Always look for discounted product especially if you know you will consume it before it goes bad or it can be frozen, why pay full price for the same thing?

  • +4

    one of their cars is worth $300,000 and it molested me but that's a story for another time

    I've got time…

  • I bet they use Amex

    • Amex Essential is an Ozbargainer card

  • +1

    Let me guess the side bolster of the seat touched you 😂
    I occasionally head into Logan central Woolies and omg the loot I get and freeze is amazing even for a hole of a suburb even the locals turn their noses at it ha as they're probably pinching the expensive steaks

    • +1

      My local Coles only does 10% markdowns, useless.
      I'm finding fewer and fewer markdown bargains at other Coles.

    • At what time do you go 👀 haha I love a good markdown

      • +1

        Usually 3pm before the 5pm rush when it gets cleared out

  • +1

    Get better friends.

  • +1

    Just tell them you're preparing for a Tesla Model Y delivery and ask them for tips on what preparations you should be looking into.

  • +3

    I feel sorry for myself that I read your post.

  • +6

    I used to care about every single thing everyone say to me. Turns out it wasn't helpful at all and I now just ignore most unhelpful things people say.

  • +1

    Your friends "so called friends" are looking down on you, not feel sorry for you. Friend should respect each others. You live your own life they live their own life.

    • +1

      They need her friendship cause no one else likes them

  • +1

    Its still in date so its not rotten though? I think next time mention that you are doing your bit for the environment & society by not letting the food go to waste.

  • +6

    My entire family’s weekly menu is set AFTER we inspect the markdown section at Woolies, I also see it as an opportunity to try items we wouldn’t normally consider in addition to saving money. Our local woolies is good enough to group all the discounted items from multiple departments into one section now, it’s my favourite go to.

  • -2

    Fresh food usually tastes better than stale food. If it didn't then they wouldn't mark it down.

  • i also buy yellow stickered food like you, specially milk

    • How long does that milk stretch?

    • Can you freeze milk?

      • +1

        yes but you'd want to use it all within a day when you defrost it, best for cooking only
        ozharvest posts some really good tips

        • +1

          We freeze milk often, defrost over a day or two, then use as normal. Never had a problem.

  • +4

    This reminds me of the Simpsons episode where Homer kept eating the sandwich and ending up in hospital from food poisoning. Him saying “How can I stay mad at you” to the sandwich.

  • Question is though is you were earning the money they do would you still be doing your behaviour? My concern is that you are just buying cause its on sale. I guess it also depends on how much you care about self care. Eg taking care of your body and nutrition. Instead of buying what tastes good or on sale having a meal plan and sticking to it (and also working out/ exercise). I guess just look at your body and see if youre happy but I personally would feel sorry for you (or concerned as my friend) cause it shows you either don't have enough money or you dont care about your health… Again not trying to be preachy just stating my opinion based on info you provided

    • Or buy discounts and work your daily KJ and macros around it

  • +1

    Are they old money or new money?

  • +1

    Must have bought that car from the Epstein estate sale

  • Get a better job or 2

  • +1

    It sounds like it's a strange power play… or maybe along with your hair pillow story, they see it as another reason to be concerned about you.

    Most of my friends and family, who are reasonably well-off, love bargains and will occasionally mention particularly good items found on clearance.

  • +2
    1. Do you go to the supermarket(s) several times per day to find markdown items?
    2. How many times do you throw away things you buy but not consume?
    3. Do you find yourself eating the same thing for a week because it is on sale?
    4. Are you still in your 20s? ( being 20s you can eat whatever junk food you like)
      etc …

    You disregard your friends' opinions and seek approval from strangers on Ozbargain? Maybe you should change your friends or there are certain truth in what you friends are telling you.

  • -2

    Wtf snow flake. Grow a pair

  • +5

    Short answer: no, your friends are spoilt idiots.

    Long answer: looks like your friends are confusing "best before" date (which you mention) with "use by" date.
    Best before means the food can be eaten after the date as long as it seems OK, but might have lost some taste - perhaps.
    Use by means don't eat the food after that date, throw it out.
    https://www.foodstandards.gov.au/consumer/labelling/dates/Pa…
    Apparently this confusion is common; in the UK some supermarkets are dropping the best before date to stop people throwing out good food at home.

    Growing up in the 70s and 80s we never worried about best before - I think there was only a use by date?
    Good lord, we kept the tomato sauce in the pantry (not he fridge!!!) for MONTHS and yet we survived.

  • -1

    A guy and my work does this. Earns $1800 a week after tax and can't even afford to buy his own phone charger and eats rotten food every day. Blames it all on inflation lol.

    • If he is a single dad it will be tough. Child care will take $800 gone. If he has a million dollar mortgage then $750 gone. Now He will have to budget under $250.

      • And if he loses his job, he could become homeless?

    • He could be just cheap though. I know people like that… how much you make and attitudes towards money don't tend to be related from what we've seen around us.

  • +1

    You have the connections a lot of middle class people don’t have. Why don’t you make use of it to catapult your self into the rich. Think of a product or service, develop it and get them to invest in it. You too can buy $7 buns at full price in no time.

  • +2

    Get new friends.

  • +1

    I hunt marked down items all the time, doesn't bother me what others think of me.

  • +1

    this is making me hungry

  • -2

    I don't think your friends appreciate where their money is coming from. Sounds like your friends could be Asians because their money has been given down to them by their parents and they don't understand the true value of it.

    Your friends can think what they like but once you've explained it to them then they should understand you and accept you.

    • +1

      Crazy Rich Asians ? - "sorry I crashed the Lamborghini, Daddy (blink, blink) - can I have a purple one next ?"

    • +1

      I am Asian where is this mystical money you people think we have?

      • -1

        Don't be so naive mate. I'm also Asian. Most Asians that come to Australia have money.

        • lol only if daddy is funding everything

  • +1

    Are you in better shape physically than them?

  • +2

    people like me who grew up middle class are more likely to feel good when they save money and seek out and admire discount shopping

    the others may have grown up poor and feel good when they spend money - in which case you can pity them for growing up poor and needing to spend $300K on a car to feel good about themselves

    other alternative is they grew up rich and are used to spending money like water without concern, so can't imagine ever buying discounted stuff - such folk can view poorer folk like cockroaches, best not seen, ignored if possible, and quickly stamped on if unavoidable.

  • +2

    I feel sorry for your friend that has been stuck by the for profit corporation ploy.

  • +1

    There is a common belief that as soon as a product hits the Use By or Best Before date, it becomes inedible. There is always a safety margin built into the dates. There are some products I would stick to the date (meat, or anything that has a Use By of a few days usually), but products that have good date periods that stretch into weeks? No problem eating it a few days afterwards.

    Best Before is basically a suggestion. I have eaten super discounted natural yogurt a week after the Best Before date. Never a problem.

    The second perception is that only super poor or desperate people buy things near end of date. Not so. I have no problem with money, and I still enjoy snagging something 90% off.

  • Some high class restaurants charge a premium for aged meat. I don't think chicken 24 hours older than the other chicken packets matters to much

  • a:) None if their business
    b:) If they are really concerned, they should buy those costly upmarket groceries for you!!

  • +1

    I remember this concept being pushed in a typical soft sob story on a certain channel. One of the pity points the low income earner made was how "they look for the discounted marked down foods…" and I just thought jeez that's what I do every week :P.

    I used to have people give me crap about how I used to like frozen veggies for convenience and often price too if something was out of season. Made the usual claims how it's not as fresh or nutritious. The odd thing was how they talked about cooking up big batches of food to freeze for later …

  • +1

    Considering it's the exact same product except its CHEAPER then I don't see the issue? I buy marked down products all the time, more specifically plant-based meats and various snacks (eg. Marked down donuts, pastries etc when they're nearing their used-by dates).

    Your friends sound like they're either entitled, lazy or don't know how to save a few dollars and re-purpose it elsewhere.

    Just the other day my house mate went to the servo to get a 1.5L Bottle of Coke instead of driving 1-2km further to go to Coles or Woolworths and not pay servo prices, his reason was 'I'm lazy' - That same friend complains about how it's difficult to save money, mainly because his GF leaches money off of him.

  • +1

    I go one level deeper and eat the food they chuck in the bin if no-one buys it at best before. Never been sick/ultimate money saver, and I eat like a king!

  • do whatever you want who cares

  • +1

    Invite your classy friends to dumpster diving or ask them to join you for Christmas Lunch at
    the Homeless Shelter.
    Maybe they can fill their 300K car with some toys and give the kids a few laps of the block.

  • +3

    Familiarity breeds contempt.

    We do the same and always search for the best bargains and clearance food at the supermarkets, it's fun and like a treasure hunt. We don't need to but we love it and love to tell everyone about it.

    Personally I rather people think we're poor, they're much nicer to you in general and tend to leave you alone. When people know you have money or wealth they become parasitic.

    • +1

      Or envious. Tall poppy syndrome is real.

    • +1

      Can vouch that parasite thing is very true!

  • I'd be concern for a friend if they were buying the $7 marked down to 50c food items

    I've seen them before, they're usually right at best before dates, I've seen what looks like mould in the bread.

    the concern isn't just nutrition its also quality of life

  • +4

    I only buy those Woolies artisan handcrafted loaves when its on sale too. It's just bread not some life altering experience.

    I have friends like that too. They judge me inferior for not possessing an Audi, Miele white goods, a brand name leather sofa, boutique coffee etc. Buying things on sale is considered beneath their stature. On the flip side I judge them for being overly materialistic and financially wasteful. But I suspect that's what they need to feel special and unique to everyone else. Without their branded things they just don't know who they are. I'll say some high-end branded things are worthwhile especially if they last a long time (eg RM boots) but I don't see any need to have something because it's a 'brand', nor do I think it's better quality if it's full price.

    Either way, we still make sure we save a few dates each year to get together and judge each other.

  • What was funny about it was that they were genuinely concerned for me and were absolutely sincere

    This alone would suggest all is well. You have good friends that care about your well-being. Aside from mistakenly thinking the food is not up to par, their intention is good. You can’t control what others do, only how you respond. I would interpret this in the best light - and be grateful you have good friends who care about you.

    Should my friends feel sorry for me for buying marked down items at the supermarket?

    Well, better that they feel this way (even if it were under a mistaken belief) than if they could not care less about you. Contempt is a different thing – from all you have said, that is not the issue here.

    They live in a completely different world to mine. For example, one of their cars is worth $300,000

    So what? If they are good friends, and still mix with you without judgement (caring is not judgement) – then it is irrelevant. You live how you live, and they live how they live. As a good friend, if their lifestyle is what makes them happy and they can afford it, I would only have kind thoughts and good wishes for them. You just have to make sure your own thoughts are pure and not envious – so it does not evoke negative feelings in you. And it should not, since wealth does not have to be great possessions, but just having few wants.

    In that light, I can only see good things. Due to your friendship, you may see/experience things higher-income people can afford, which you might not otherwise have done. Just for the exposure and curiosity of it. Example checking out the interiors of their brand new Mercedes etc. As for the massaging chair you did not like, I would have simply told the friend that it was not for me, could he please turn it off. Problem solved, and I wouldn’t have given a second thought to it.

    They're good friends. What they think of me matters to me.

    Since they are good friends, try explaining to them that the items are perfectly safe and that they need not worry about you. Will they believe you? That is up to them. So far, you mentioned they showed concern, not judgement. If you lay out the facts, chances are they will listen to what you have to say. This is what good friends are for – frank and open conversations.

    And if they don’t believe you? So what? You can’t control external events. As long as they accept you as you are, what is the problem? And if they don’t and start showing you contempt, it is in your power to decide the direction of the friendship. So, focus only on things you can control.

  • Supermarket markdowns are processed before the due date, they have protocol to follow to minimize stock loss and just want to make something back on the product before they can't sell it. They reduce it in rounds shortly after it's been sitting at full price to minimize the risk of getting nothing back.

    The benefit of full priced is that you have like an extra day or two to eat it, while a heavily reduced item is probably best consumed that day. If it is going to be eaten in a couple of days, what is the difference between an item sitting in your fridge versus the supermarket cooler? It's probably gonna stay fresher in the latter given that more care is devoted to monitoring temperature and the like, compared to a home fridge, where temp and air flow can fluctuate pending on the unit and how items are organised.

    Also, there is no way they would be content with the liability of making you sick. The company risks losing money and the managers in the actual store get a lot of heat. You'd be surprised at the level of control these places exert over this side of things.

    I've noticed occasional changes in bread quality of purchased at night, but there is usually no difference (can happen to full priced items too). They reduce this stuff heavily because they can only keep it for a day, but it will general still be fine at your house for a little longer. The timeframe isn't necessarily tied to quality - for example, a loaf of sourdough baked by Woolies or Coles is kept for a day, while the same item baked by a fancy, artisan bakehouse is retained for a few.

    If your friends go shopping at 5pm and buy full price, and you to at 6pm and buy reduced, you're probably buying the same batch - it's just that you've gone after the markdown run has been completed. It is tied more to the timing of store operations than it is the quality of the item. If you look at the range of products in the cooler, you'll see that there are sometimes items that look pretty damn funky regardless of whether they are full priced or reduced. I think this is usually a result of exposure to light (believe it or not, exposure to light causes meat to turn grey pretty quickly), or some issue with air entering packaging (probably occurred at the factory or in transit).

    I am surprised by the attitudes of your friends though. I worked at a supermarket during uni, in an area with a demographic comprised of either very low SES and very high SES customers who were mostly singles or couples without children. Both groups were equitably fiendish for reduced items, surprisingly. Often the customers who appeared wealthier were more concerned with price than those who presented as average or low income.

    It's also worth noting that this is merely based on visual assessment - the wealthier looking people may have less disposable income owing to stupidly high rent in modern buildings versus the low SES customers who had been in the area longer and may own houses or live in government residences. It was initially odd to see, because you'd have these knockabout guys who were happy to pay whatever you weighed up at the deli, followed by these polished, exquisitely dressed white collar professionals who would want their product to meet the exact dollar and cent requested.

    I feel that their comments are more likely to be some kind of poorly disguised attempt to illustrate themselves as being of a higher status. I wouldn't pay any attention to it, it's a common human attribute. Maybe you're handsome or happy or in love or have something that they don't, and this is just a way to calm their insecurity.

    • -1

      If your friends go shopping at 5pm and buy full price, and you to at 6pm and buy reduced, you're probably buying the same batch

      I wouldn't call something that has been reduced from $7 to 50c the same batch

      Ops comes across to me as extreme frugalness, you dont often see things reduced by this much.

      I'd be concern too, and I'm an Ozbargainer

      • I dunno, it's hard to tell because OP is obviously making approximations and isn't giving actual examples.

        From memory, fancy bread products are managed by the supplier and may not even be reduced by supermarket staff.

        The in-house fany-ish stuff wouldn't be reduced by that much, it would probably just be marked down by 50% in the evening according to set policies (may have changed). If it's by further, I'd assume it's because someone forgot to do the markdown at the correct time and really wants it gone before the boss arrives in the morning and kicks up a stink. Either way, it's likely the thing was full priced an hour or two earlier.

        If they've reduced an in-house item to 50c, it's probably because a staff member messed up baked/put too much on show, or because it's a day where there are hardly any customers in. If something was actually likely to be bad, they'd honestly just bin it. There is no point making 50c on something if it may make someone sick, which will either cost significantly more or attract the negative attention of someone higher up.

        The person who does the markdowns will do it all at once at a single point in the evening, and isn't likely to keep monitoring a single item that is about to go out of date. The staff member has other stuff to do, plus bread doesn't incur significant losses as it's really cheap. The labour costs more than anything they could make on it.

        It's an interesting strategy because drastic price reductions are perceived to reflect the item having some kind of inherent issue - as evidenced by your perspective (nothing wrong with it, totally common). This is particularly true of items where quality/freshness matter, like seafood. I'd see customers apprehensive to purchase crazily reduced seafood because they believed it to be off, when in truth, it was only marked down because there was way too much stock to see at full price.

        There are caveats to what I am saying though. Heavily reduced sushi or sandwiches, or other things that are only really enjoyable when super fresh, are likely to be junk. In that case, though, they were also probably trash before they were marked down in the first place.

  • +2

    Hunting down supermarket mark downs is a weekly hobby of mine. It’s gives me an adrenaline rush finding an item that’s 90% off. Don’t let others rob the joy from you

    • Do you have any pro tips?

      • +1

        I think luck has a lot to do with it. Some colesworths have fast moving stock and no mark downs. Other stores have a lot of daily mark downs.
        I tend to see mark downs happen from 6pm to 6:30pm at my local Woolies. I like hunting for discounted items from the bakery, I scored a 50c Mother’s Day mud cake this year. The meat mark downs aren’t as good at my local, although I did find a $2 marinated whole chicken one time that I roasted that night.

        • I suspect it has to do with the manager on duty. I managed to score a 80c whole roasting chicken (at around that time too)
          Other times the markdowns on items have been more paltry

      • We don't have mark downs in our area. But in the city, the smaller stores at the end of the night have mark downs on things in the fridge. Someone said you can ask what time they do mark downs.

        The local igs does 50% yesterday's bread when they open in the morning.

  • Not really good friends if they're belittling you. Out of curiosity. Have you ever seen them cook something for you to eat? If so. What was it? Was it made from "premium" ingredients.

    • lol work (comes with a catering team) apolgises for buying supermarket meat, cause they didn't get enough from the supplier. I asked chef where he shops (non bulk) and he says the $$ stall at the market. As a 5yr old that market's prices are for novelty trips rather than weekly shops

  • +3

    On 300k and still do this. Milk for 19cents it expires that day but we all know it stays good for 2-3 more days. Just habit when I was a broke uni student

  • Can you go grocery shopping alone?
    Come home and remove the discount stickers.

    • -2

      Can you go grocery shopping alone?

      No, both Coles and Woolies are open to the public and do not allow exclusive shopping.

  • -1

    Maybe we should start a collection for OP.

  • Sounds like the low carbon option. Eat it is better than landfill. Less wasted food, less CO2.

    That's my marketing spin.

  • You got molested by a car?

  • Some people just feel embarrassed or think that they dont belong to the discount or mark down items. I dont give a fruit (censored).
    Anyways, i pray to God that op will have a successful career or business so that he one day could show the husband his Lamborghini.

  • I know plenty of people that have plenty of money, shop at the fancy supermarkets instead of woolies etc.

    What I do know is that they regularly buy bread and all sorts of food and they don't eat it on the first day and will often eat food very close to the best before date, I think this is quite normal for most people.

    I don't see the difference between you storing the food in your house at full price or the supermarket storing it for you and then giving you a discount, its the same product you potentially eat on the same day.

  • Tell them rotten food isn't sold in the supermarket, not sure where they would have got that idea from…

  • I buy marked down meat/chicken regularly and freeze it, couldnt care what other think…

    Mrs hates it as freezer is mostly full of meat

  • +2

    Bro do they even ozbargain?

    As for the stickers the poem goes:

    "Use by" or you might die.
    "Best before" you can ignore.

  • Depends on their POV, but personally with a housemate like that couple we don't talk about it. Somehow it's a secret shame/game.
    This comes from the same couple that won't use eatclub/fork offers or anything, cause it makes them second class.

    It's like how your budget/income is private, unless your friends are in the game too shh

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