What Happens When You Share a House with a Mate

[Deactivated] on 13/06/2016 - 21:16
Last edited 29/03/2019 - 22:59 by 1 other user

Edit: Just a quick edit to say thank you. I've taken your advice on board. I've decided to move in with my best mate for a trial period. I'm also planning to go to Mauritius for a mini-holiday later during the year.

Cheers,
JJB

I'm 33 year old, male and I'm going to be homeless in 4 weeks. It is a long, complicated story, so I will spare you most of the details.

One of my options is to move in my best friend. He is renting a 2 bedroom+ study house and is trying to save money to buy a car. So he has suggested that I move in with him and that solves both of our problems.I'll be paying my fair share of rent and bills.

In the spirit of full disclosure , I should add that:

  • I've never house share with anyone other than my wife and kids.
  • I have a pet dog and my mate has a cat, that he stole from me. The 2 pets get along ok.
  • I have a mild case of OCD and ADHD ( never officially diagnosed) but I've been known to do weird things.
  • I sleepwalk . So does my mate. I do it when I'm stressed. He does it when he's smashed.
  • I'm married. He's single, ready-to-mingle and a party animal.
  • He's renting my investment property. So he's my renter and I'm is landlord. Is that going to be awkward?

There's probably even more reasons why this is a bad idea but I'm not sure what my other options are. I also don't want to come home every day to an empty house so I rather not live by myself:(

So…Does anyone have any experience with house-sharing? How did it go? Would you recommend? Do you have any advice, tips, words of warning..etc

Much appreciated.
cheers,
JJB

Poll Options

  • 69
    It is going to be best year EVER!!! You're going to have so much fun!.
  • 91
    Bad idea.You are going to end up hating each other's guts.
  • 18
    Since you're the owner, kick him out and move in. Keep his cat.
  • 192
    Move to Mauritius with the mrs and the kids.That's your problem solved.
  • 6
    You have other options. Such as?
Home & Garden

closed Comments

  • Cluelessness11 on 13/06/2016 - 21:27
    +8

    If it's the best friend of yours that you've mentioned before then just do it! You guys will get along just fine living together, it'll be fun as hell and there will be fights, but your friendship is greater than the landlord/renter problems plus whatever else issues you may deal with :)

    • lonix on 15/06/2016 - 21:49
      +1

      Just don't leave him alone with your missus.

      • Johndemonic on 18/06/2016 - 00:23

        You mean, choose a missus that you trust to leave alone with friends ?

        • lonix on 18/06/2016 - 10:29

          That too

  • SnoozeAndLose on 13/06/2016 - 21:27
    +2

    So you have your wife and kids and going to be homeless?

    You are landlord and your best friend is the renter and then you sub lend his spare bedroom and pay your share of rent and bill to yourself?

    Also he stole your cat and now you are living with the stole cat?

    what is OCD and ADHD?

    Can you please at least give a bit more details? I am so confuse of your situation.

    • [Deactivated] on 13/06/2016 - 21:35
      +4

      Wife and kids are moving to her home country for a year. Originally I was planning to move with them and we've rented out ( with a view to sell) our main residence. My best friend has been renting our investment property for a year or so.

      But then as a family, we've decided that I shouldn't have to move to Mauritius if I'm gong to be unhappy there. So now I'm kind of stuck because someone is moving into our main residence in July and I can't /don't want to kick out my best friend from our investment property.

      He didn't really steal the cat. The cat chose him over me :(

      OCD- Obssesive compulsive disorder
      ADHD- Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder

      • SnoozeAndLose on 13/06/2016 - 21:47
        +31

        I think as a family you should stay together, wither they stay here for school or you move there.

        Sharing house is hard with best friend and your relationship also a landlord and renter.

        i have experience living with best friend and normal friends, both did not end up well in different way and view, money, living style(tidy vs messy), who cleaning up, sleeping habit etc..

        • TheLegend on 17/06/2016 - 01:16
          +6

          To expand on this, it is never a good idea to rent out to a friend, or even to rent to a friend.

          Renting to a friend:
          * If they are short on cash, they may ask to skip a payment etc.
          * If you ever go around there, they will always feel uncomfortable, and as though they have to make the place spotless.
          * He will likely resent paying you the money, unless you are renting it out to him cheaply…

          Living with him:
          * Anything he does will drive you insane, thinking it is damaging the house.
          * You will resent him being there.
          * He will resent you being there, thinking that you are not contributing.
          * It will likely be very awkward
          * He will likely constantly feel uncomfortable when you are in the flat with him.

          My suggestion: GO WITH THE FAMILY! Long periods away can seriously damage relationships etc. I am not sure how old your kids are, or how long you have been married to your wife, but I would highly recommend not being apart from them for a year.

          Staying with your friend could either bring you close together, whilst at the same time moving you apart from your family, or tear apart your friendship.

        • [Deactivated] on 17/06/2016 - 17:12

          @TheLegend:

          Agree. Need to think of your children 1st. They are your priority

      • the-mal on 13/06/2016 - 21:48
        +56

        He didn't really steal the cat. The cat chose him over me :(

        Don't take it to heart. Your cat didn't choose him because he preferred him. Your cat just deliberately didn't choose you because he knew it would hurt you.

        Cats are jerks. Fluffy, cute, sociopathic jerks.

      • teardrops21 on 14/06/2016 - 21:26
        +10

        You forgot OOBHD - Obsessive OzBargain hyperactivity disorder.

        • [Deactivated] on 15/06/2016 - 15:45

          @teardrops21
          It appears that I might also be dyslexic. I've read

          You forgot OOBHD - Obsessive OzBargain hyperactivity disorder.

          as BOOB. LOL!

        • Robydc on 17/06/2016 - 07:37
          +1

          @Jar Jar Binks: BOOB in HD?

      • nikey2k27 on 15/06/2016 - 14:16
        +1

        Move in with him have rules that you can broth live by you be fine. I have shared house for many years now live on my own. now think about going back to share house myself. some fun time people from many places oversea live with a doc to a meat work and so many students they have all been fun some not so fun times.

      • rickyygee on 16/06/2016 - 19:23

        I google imaged this place and it looks great, why would you be unhappy there?

        • [Deactivated] on 16/06/2016 - 19:32

          It's great. I just can't leave my job. My lab is my safe haven.

        • rickyygee on 16/06/2016 - 19:38
          +2

          @Jar Jar Binks: Well then it's up to family vs your job then. You have time to decide and the options of us!

      • syousef on 17/06/2016 - 23:55
        +1

        Drop everything and move to Mauritius with them if you value your family.

  • [Deactivated] on 13/06/2016 - 21:31
    +14

    Any tax implications of living in your rental property?

    • [Deactivated] on 13/06/2016 - 21:37

      Haven't thought of that one. I will check with my accountant. Cheers.

      • ilikeradiohead on 14/06/2016 - 15:41

        Maybe chuck the rental into an SMSF and then 'rent' it from yourself? I'm not sure how the ATO views this but I would guess dimly.

        • JIMB0 on 15/06/2016 - 05:42
          +3

          Only works for renting a commercial property to your business.

      • nikey2k27 on 15/06/2016 - 14:17
        +1

        rent a room off him keep it that way. get your mail sent elsewhere.

      • MadamePolyglot on 15/06/2016 - 16:05
        +2

        You can only have one main residence exemption, and I'm guessing that 100% of gain on the other house would be better than 50% of gain on this one.

        • [Deactivated] on 15/06/2016 - 17:13

          Yep.

      • bumluffa on 16/06/2016 - 19:05
        +1

        You will have to apportion the floor area of the house that you use solely for yourself as "private use" and the floor area of the house that is shared living. You cannot claim rental expenses as a deduction for the private use proportion of the houseand only half the expenses as a deduction for the shared living proportion of the house.

        You'll also have to sell your house within 6 months after moving out or you will lose the main residence exemption for capital gains tax as your main residence will change to your new house. That's not gonna give you any tax benefit unless you sell it anyway

        • [Deactivated] on 16/06/2016 - 19:09
          +1

          Thanks. Received more or less the same advice from my accountant :)

  • rambutann on 13/06/2016 - 21:42
    +1

    Really wouldnt be that bad, if anything it'd be hell fun.. You'll be able to sit back and do whatever you want whenever you want. The only negative of having housemates is that you dont always get the toilet or the shower when you want it, but you'd get that living with wife and kids anyway so it wouldn't be bad at all.
    It'd be dirt cheap also so you would be able to save up heaps of money and spend it on dumb shit.

  • outlander on 13/06/2016 - 21:46
    +3

    You could come and live with me? My house doesn't have any spare rooms, but the crawl space is pretty spacious.

    It would give some credence to gamechangers claims the next time he accuses you of being a troll ;)

    • [Deactivated] on 14/06/2016 - 21:28

      Thank you for the offer. But considering that you invited me for a run in your neck of the wood then didn't turn up, I'm sadly going to have to decline your invitation. You can still borrow some of Wiki's poetry books if you want to.

  • the-mal on 13/06/2016 - 21:53
    +11

    Why not trial it with your mate with the upfront agreement that if it isn't working for both of you after a month you'll move out and go rent a little bachelor pad somewhere till the fam comes home?

    Living with friends can be all good, but it can be a big challenge too especially if you're both 30+ and probably a bit set in your ways. And the landlord/roommate dynamic could be a bit odd - would he feel like he's constantly being judged?

    I love my mates, but I don't want to live with them. Was happy to in my early 20s, but not now. Still, if you're up for the challenge I say at least set a trial period up front!

  • scupper on 13/06/2016 - 22:01
    +6

    As long as you don't use your landlord status to get your way, or your OCD for that matter, it'll probably be fine.

  • roastchook on 13/06/2016 - 22:14
    +13

    cats are dicks

    • FutureTech on 14/06/2016 - 22:36
      +7

      I thought they were pussies?

      • Scrooge McDuck on 15/06/2016 - 00:08

        Some are dicks but they're all just pussies.

        • BartholemewH on 16/06/2016 - 18:53
          +1

          There are three kinds of cats… dicks, pussies and assholes.

  • outlander on 13/06/2016 - 22:18
    +43

    Actually, this is a great opportunity

    Heres what you do: Talk about how great it will be to share the house with him, and all the cool stuff you'll do together. Make him think your on even footing. Then, once your all moved in, start making him do things. Start with small things that he'd be rude to refuse

    "Pass that cup over there to me will you?"

    Then gradually increase the magnitude until he's basically working for you.
    If he ever says no, begin talking about how you "really wanted this to work, but if your not prepared to put in the effort, we should probably just stop being friends altogether…"
    If he still won't do it, threaten to "throw him out on his ass"

    After a week, make him call you "Mr JJB"
    After 2 weeks, put on the kings robe and start wearing a crown every were you go. Make him put it on your shoulders as soon as you get home. If he asks why, say its because its cold, and it improves the wifi signal. When you talk to him, don't look directly at him, face him side on.

    Make it so that when you eat dinner, you sit at the head and he sits at the foot. Every few days, saw off an inch from his chair, so that he gradually gets closer and closer to the ground.

    Make him cut up your dinner and feed it to you first before he eats his

    Set arbitrary times for when he can shower or watch tv.

    • roastchook on 13/06/2016 - 22:21
      +8

      your image unsettles me

    • FatGPT on 15/06/2016 - 10:36

      I like this part:

      "After 2 weeks, put on the kings robe and start wearing a crown every were you go. Make him put it on your shoulders as soon as you get home"

    • randombrick on 15/06/2016 - 11:07
      +2

      I shouldn't have read this at my work desk..

    • blitz on 17/06/2016 - 12:21

      Every few days, saw off an inch from his chair, so that he gradually gets closer and closer to the ground.

      Oh that's excellent.

      • Symbiotic on 18/06/2016 - 09:40

        The Twits - Roald Dahl

  • psyren89 on 13/06/2016 - 22:58
    +3

    You should trial living with him for a couple of weeks. If neither of you are dead or missing at the end of that and you're still friends, then you should probably draw up a new lease on the house with some extra conditions that take into account the fact that you, the landlord, are also occupying the house - you should also take that opportunity to settle distribution of rates.

    If your trial period doesn't go well, GTFO to Mauritius.

    • [Deactivated] on 14/06/2016 - 23:49
      +3

      We've actually lived together. He crashed at my place a few times when we was having problems with his crazy psycho of an ex-gf and/or his step-father.
      He slept in one of the kid's bedroom and used their bathroom . He entertained the kids, helped with mowing the lawn, played backyard cricket, drank most of my beers, got along really well with the mrs and even made us pancakes for breakie once. We had a blast.

      I wonder if it's going to be different this time as I'm moving into his place.I hope not.

      • msmhw on 15/06/2016 - 05:28
        +2

        it sounds as good friend which rare to see these days. I will vote with move in and dont think about you are the owner of the place.

      • MadamePolyglot on 15/06/2016 - 16:06
        +1

        In that case, I think it'd be okay.

      • azorax on 16/06/2016 - 11:13
        +2

        The thing is, the first couple of weeks will generally always be a blast.

        Both of you will slightly alter your habits to suit the other, then after a couple weeks - cpl months you settle back into your more comfortable habits/make less concessions to please the friend you may fight.

        Ofc this depends on how 'similar' you two are.

        I say give it a go and pay attention to the period of time you have to five notice before mocing out.

  • GnarlyKnuckles on 14/06/2016 - 00:56
    +5

    There's probably even more reasons why this is a bad idea …

    Yes, I can think of many more reasons.

    Do not do it.

    Get a place by yourself, until you sort your situation out.

  • Mumbles on 14/06/2016 - 01:18
    +3

    About the OCD. If the OCD applies to dishes in the sink, rubbish bins, vacuuming, tabletop surfaces, etc then your friend could see it as a benefit of a cleaner place. However if you have ANY expectation of your friend to change his living habits (ie. clean up more) he'll not appreciate it.

    OCD, ADHD, autistic spectrum or other stuff is easily mitigated if the home has enough space for tenants to do their own thing and can retreat to the privacy of their rooms.

    My brother shares a house with a mature lady who is much older and she regularly admits to being obsessed about having a clean home. Their bedrooms couldn't look more different and the rest of the house is spotless. They are strange in that they're interests/furniture/transport/lifestyle/relaxation compliment each other surprisingly well. There's stuff she is great at where my brother is terrible and vice versa so they help each other out.

    In my experience the biggest issue I've seen is that Single housemates may not be comfortable living in a house with a Married housemate and vice versa. The lifestyles are very different and appreciated differently (eg. visitors-vs-partners, alcohol fueled celebrations, late night time schedules, music/gaming/TV, …, bedroom noises).

  • [Deactivated] on 14/06/2016 - 06:48
    +1

    I was wondering why two of your old threads are in the email from last night…
    OzBargainers doing some research. God help them.

    Will Darthie even let you back in the house?
    *cat damn autocorrect.
    bloody video takedowns - close enough…

    Last time I lived with a mate (still friends, remarkably), we changed channels on TV with broken remote, with a long metal curtain rod. TV's still had physical buttons back then. Curtain rod meant no leaning forward as compared with inferior and clichéd pool-cue alternative. Innovative. Patents were discussed, briefly.

    You're gonna die, and you know why.
    Not the… but the cat will partially eat you. Your mate will panic and bury what's left of you in the backyard, before he then flees - at that point in fear for his own life.

    Safer in Mauritius, top of the daily schedule for you and the kids, dodging coconuts for reason of basic survival. Easy.

    (Morning, Wiki. I have officially done all that I can :))

  • Pumpkin_rrr on 14/06/2016 - 07:42

    Let Mrs go for one year, you and kids stay in your residence. Kids get Aussie education, you get a nanny, pay her/him with free accommodation & food plus others. Rent the other room out to AirBnB. I think this is s good idea :-))

    • [Deactivated] on 14/06/2016 - 08:49
      +5

      We discussed it and came to the conclusion that :

      • being raised by loving, highly-educated grandparents (and their mother) trumps being raised by a nanny.

      • Mauritian education trumps an Australian one in many respects.

      • my kids are little adventurers and can't wait to meet their extended family.We couldn't deny them this experience.

      • they've been preparing for this for a long time: they are already fluent in French and getting there in Mauritian Creole.

      • they are outgoing and social. They are twins and will be classmates which should facilitate their integration.

      • they play soccer, are confident swimmers and love spicy food. They'll fit right in:)

      My daughter did offer to stay with me while my son goes with Wiki but it didn't feel right to us.

  • [Deactivated] on 14/06/2016 - 11:07
    +16

    what happens when the mrs decides to stay over there and you have to get 60 minutes to arrange to abduct your kids to get them back and it all fails and you end up in jail?

    • [Deactivated] on 14/06/2016 - 11:09
      +14

      Trust: Giving someone the ability to destroy you - but being confident that that person won't.

      I trust Wiki.

      • syousef on 17/06/2016 - 23:59
        +2

        It isn't a matter of trust at all, at least not primarily. It's a matter of choices. You are choosing to live lives that are separate and apart. That never bodes well for a relationship. Ask people who HAVE to do it for career. People who have solid relationships that are a priority tend to do everything in their power to stay together.

  • Lockieasy on 14/06/2016 - 14:28
    +4

    I've been living with one of my best friends for over a year now, haven't had any dramas, we are both in our mid-20's. We are both uni educated and have really chilled & sensible personalities which helps alot. I'm single and regularly mingling, he's getting married in September (I'm best man).

    His parents stay over every so often since they own the property (3 bedroom apartment) but I get along with them really well (I'm not too fond of their mangy old dog though!).

    Neither of us are too fond of housework so we go halves in a cleaner through Helpling every so often to give the place a do over. We do our food seperate to keep things simple (also his diet is terribly unhealthy), but will go halves in things like beer.

    So if you get along with the guy I think you should give it a try.

  • AlienC on 14/06/2016 - 14:43
    +1

    Is your friend more of a qui gon jin or an annakin sky walker

    • [Deactivated] on 14/06/2016 - 20:55

      Different Disney world altogether. He's more of a Flynn.

      • AlienC on 16/06/2016 - 06:55

        Haha lol ok then i see no problems

  • goosegog on 14/06/2016 - 16:21
    +2

    So has your lovely wife finally realised that there was something going on between you & " Liv" - the woman you were giving us all the continuing stories on last year, that worked in the same building as you, but not the same company?
    An update would be great - almost like " The Archers" - ( a very old radio series from England that most of you would have to ask your Grandparents about ! )
    Grow up JJB - you have responsibilities- for your wife to reach this decision, must mean some major problem has occorred.
    Mauritius is beautiful - why not try it for a while to rebuild the bridges you have destroyed with your stupidity with this other woman. Then come back with a mature attitude & a willingness to make your marriage work.

    • [Deactivated] on 14/06/2016 - 17:24

      "Liv" is in the penalty box. The IRL one, from what I've heard.

      Wiki and I are good. I could stop her from going but I chose not to . She could force me to go but she won't do it.

      As a family we believe in self-determination: everyone gets to choose their own fate and we support them regardless of whether we approve of their decision or not. It works for us.

      • Diji1 on 14/06/2016 - 23:16

        everyone gets to choose their own fate and we support them regardless

        God that must be difficult. Can't think why you'd be moving out (sorry … half joking :p)

      • syousef on 18/06/2016 - 00:00

        As a family we believe in self-determination: everyone gets to choose their own fate and we support them regardless of whether we approve of their decision or not. It works for us

        Yep. You're choosing not to spend time with each other that you'll never get back. What does that tell you?

    • [Deactivated] on 14/06/2016 - 17:52
      +2

      Of course he should come to Mauritius.

      However our family motto is to go wrong in one's own way is better than to go right in someone else's. So the kids and I have decided not to nag him nor use emotional blackmail… for the time being anyway ;)

      -Wiki

    • outlander on 14/06/2016 - 21:49

      Mauritius is beautiful - why not try it for a while to rebuild the bridges you have destroyed with your stupidity with this other woman. Then come back with a mature attitude & a willingness to make your marriage work.

      Seeing how everyone is telling JJB to go, and he's not succumbing to the pressure, maybe you should take your own advice and grow up?
      Realize that people can't be bullied into things, and if they're strong enough to say no the first time, repetitively trying only strengthens their resolve. Insults certainly don't help. You're old enough to know better you goose.

  • [Deactivated] on 14/06/2016 - 22:19
    +29

    This marriage is weird af

    • [Deactivated] on 14/06/2016 - 22:39
      +5

      We're 2 imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other. Shouldn't imperfect people have the right to love and be loved?

    • Bullzye on 14/06/2016 - 23:07
      +8

      You know how people say "…still better than twilight". Not after these threads.

    • outlander on 15/06/2016 - 22:17

      Hey, back off man!
      JJB is a scientist..

  • qwertyaz on 14/06/2016 - 22:44
    +5

    house sharing could be one of the best ways to ruin a friendship…but if he is your best friend and you can endure each other's bad habits that should be fine

    • BartholemewH on 16/06/2016 - 19:04

      Plus if you're the landlord you can always kick him out if things don't work lol.

  • Diji1 on 14/06/2016 - 23:14
    +3

    I have never ever had a good outcome from a "moving in with friends" situation.

    And I do mean people being uprooted with 24 hours notice etc.

    But hey, maybe it's me ;)

  • Scrooge McDuck on 14/06/2016 - 23:50
    +5

    The real question is, what are you going to do in your room for a year while your friend is banging HBs in your living room?

    Some ideas:

    • Cuddle a pillow and pretend it's your boo.
    • Live vicariously through an MMORPG character.
    • Amass a fortune trading penny stocks.
    • Beat Disney to Episode IX using Lego stop motion.
    • Learn to play various instruments and become a one man band.
    • etc.

    P.S. I voted Move to Mauritius. :)

    • [Deactivated] on 15/06/2016 - 00:34

      The real question is, what are you going to do in your room for a year while your friend is banging HBs in your living room?

      Hold the camera for them and do the zooming and stuff :b

      Srly? I initially thought of starting a blog but I'm concerned about privacy issues. Other options are:

      • Try my charm on @System. The bad news is that she's male and has a depressing personality :( Good news is that I believe he's interested. He replied to one of my reports with a smiley face. So… I guess it all depends on how much I'm willing to lower my usual standards :b

      • I can finally learn Klingon. French is over-rated. Klingon is the true language of love.

      If all else fails to keep me entertained, I can always share my misery with fellow ozbargainers:b

      P.s:
      Klingon version: pu' tIHmey bach'a' mInDu'lIj? vIleghDI' jIroSHa'choH!
      French version : Quelqu'un a dû vous tourné avec un phaser mis à 'magnifique'.
      Which one do you prefer?

      • Scrooge McDuck on 15/06/2016 - 09:38

        I initially thought of starting a blog but I'm concerned about privacy issues.

        What if there were profits to be made? Memoirs of a Gungan, perhaps? I'll take the SparkNotes guide.

        P.s:
        Klingon version: pu' tIHmey bach'a' mInDu'lIj? vIleghDI' jIroSHa'choH!
        French version : Quelqu'un a dû vous tourné avec un phaser mis à 'magnifique'.
        Which one do you prefer?

        French is slightly easier on the uvula. But Klingon better fits the subject matter. Although the French are fond of their cheese. But Klingon is easier to type.

        I'd say Klingon has it.

        • [Deactivated] on 15/06/2016 - 11:13
          +1

          Hi, McDuck. Long time no quack. Wicket & Binks are a bit like the non-mouse and non-cat version of Itch…

          If you paste JJB's line into google, it's clear that he's been on www.popsugar.com/tech/Star-Trek-Pickup-Lines-35455597 , or similar.
          I believe that he might be thinking of possible ways to woo back his cat. Won't work.
          I am fairly sure that Klingons, like other aliens, are well known for eating cats - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hgx-Qa8DXDE
          She will head for the hills upon hearing the first Klingon sweet nothing that he utters. Poor Darthie.

          @Jar Jar Binks, I have decided to take all this (including your posts on OzBargain), philosophically, on behalf of The Nation.

          As long as this extra time in Oz sees you further lay the groundwork for winning the Nobel Prize in Physics, for Australia (No Pressure), I believe that OzBargain as a whole will forgive you for all the grief that you have caused us. I might, too.
          Straggler commenters, maybe less likely…

          Btw, if you are a sleeptalker, as well as sleepwalker, there's an app for that.

          Be sure to email the developer, if not 'Klingon-compatible'.
          :)

          I should probably unsubscribe from this thread, given resolve on the weekend…

        • [Deactivated] on 15/06/2016 - 17:22

          @Tas: I don't talk in my sleep but I do sleep naked :/ Is there an app for that?

        • [Deactivated] on 15/06/2016 - 18:24
          +1

          Different kind of blog.

          Memoirs of a Gungan,

          Dunno about that one. I would have aimed for something slightly more poetic, along the lines of :

          Sith happens! - A memoir by my Da

          (my kids came up with that title)

          Automatic doors make me feel like a Jedi- True story

          (That doesn't mean I'm a nerd , right?)

          At me bro, you come! - The real Jar Jar Binks

          (Well not really, but…)

          Hold my farts, I will not. Thank me not.

          ( Did I say farts? I meant thoughts. Really I did.)

          Never close the blast doors … to your heart! - Words of wisdom from JJB

          (A book for the broken-hearted.)

        • [Deactivated] on 15/06/2016 - 19:59
          +1

          @Jar Jar Binks:

          I don't talk in my sleep but I do sleep naked :/ Is there an app for that?

          Fairly sure, no, but if you sleepwalk naked the cat may well eat certain bits of you even before you die… A JJB tasting plate.
          Ok, I'm going to be sick. :(

          Hi+Five for J-Twins and their 'Sith happens' idea!

          If your blog ever gets released in book form, I'll write the foreword for you, Jar Jar Binks.
          By absolute necessity, will be longer that the rest of the book…

        • [Deactivated] on 16/06/2016 - 23:10

          @Tas:

          A JJB tasting plate.

          Look up Nyotaimori…or maybe DON'T :$

  • centrelink on 15/06/2016 - 01:24
    +9

    Seriously you seem to have so much drama in your life and I'm quite certain I'm not the first to bring that up. If I'm not mistaken you had a problem where your father in law or something wanted to bring you into an orgy party the night before your wedding?

    • [Deactivated] on 15/06/2016 - 06:19

      where your father in law or something wanted to bring you into an orgy party the night before your wedding?

      Nope, wasn't me. I've been married for close to 12 years.

    • Diji1 on 15/06/2016 - 19:43

      where your father in law or something wanted to bring you into an orgy party the night before your wedding?

      Gave me a chuckle lel :D

  • tomsco on 15/06/2016 - 07:30
    +2

    Is it too late to move in with Liv?

  • kima on 15/06/2016 - 08:31
    +4

    You should talk with a counselor, they are really good with helping you deal with things like this. Not having all the facts is hard to help you. everyone has problems - none of us are perfect. I do think you should go with your wife since she wants you too. If you are worried about the unknown just try it and know that you can come back if you really are miserable. If you don't go with her you then time can make things hard for you to get back together.

  • biozet on 15/06/2016 - 09:22
    +1

    you should buy a good gaming pc and get into gaming

  • Lucky13 on 15/06/2016 - 09:40
    +2

    Are you sure your wife really doesnt mind you not going to Mauritius with her and the kids. I know she says its ok, but she'd probably be upset if you dont go. It may strain the relationship? Thoughts?

    • [Deactivated] on 15/06/2016 - 18:36
      +2

      I don't know. She came here when she was 20.She's 33 now. Maybe she might find that 'here' is more home than 'there'. Or I might find that the fear of the unknown is not as scary as being alone. We'll find each other again, of that I'm certain.

      • ceebee on 17/06/2016 - 02:29
        +2

        Well for what it's worth, this happened to my mother when my parents first came to Australia. For four years, she was homesick and crying every day. So my Dad stayed and us kids went back to Europe for a while, to live. She was supposed to stay for a year, but six months in, she felt she didn't really miss it, that she was idealizing it, and she missed my Dad. She came back and didn't really look back. She likes Australia now, although we've had our share of hardships and prejudice, she'd not trade it for Europe. That said, she has gone back and forth to visit a lot over the years (30+).

        Not to get your hopes up, but you never know, she may well feel home is more here than there.

        Although personally since I'm long distance already, I don't think I could ever take another year apart from the person I love. The more we're apart, the more I feel like it's another moment we're wasting not together, and that life is short already. So I'm on team Dad-goes-to-Maruitius-and-gives-it-a-chance-for-a-little-bit-maybe-not-a-year-but-like-a-few-months side, especially since you have kids, you can work remotely, and that your wife compromised and then some by living somewhere she didn't fully enjoy for 10+ whole years— that said— but I do respect you really really don't want to go at all and have been fighting this since I saw your question last year, and you want to stay behind and try make nice with your disrespectful cat. Sardines in pocket may assist you here, so good luck with this, although I think it may be impossible.

        Best of luck.

  • JetLi on 15/06/2016 - 09:44
    +6

    Surely you should go to Mauritius for your kids' sake, unless you argue day and night with your wife, then maybe you're right to stay with your mate.

  • theguyrules on 15/06/2016 - 09:52
    +18

    Jesus stop giving this guy the attention he craves, and maybe he'll stop making up drama and posting it to OZBargain.

    theguyrules on 15/06/2016 - 09:52 (Collapsed - Offtopic. Show)
    • bongom on 15/06/2016 - 12:01
      +3

      Is it possible to block a user from forum posts? I ignore all posts from JJB.

      • [Deactivated] on 15/06/2016 - 19:04
        +1

        So how did you end up here? o.O

    • [Deactivated] on 15/06/2016 - 19:59

      Hey @StewBalls. Noticed your upvote on this comment earlier on today, and previously on similar.

      This message intended before reading this
      @theguyrules may receive a 'popular comment' for his, but that is the one that should, and it has already been negged twice.

      You have been following the Wiki and JJB saga more than long enough to know that - however irritating it may be to you at times, their particular travails are based very substantially in the truth, unembellished.

      If you look at it the right way - and especially by way of Jar Jar being by nature a bit hyper and stressed and ever-seeking, the whole thing is pretty endearing, don't ya reckon? They may (LOL) be slightly indiscreet in spilling their life-guts out on the internet, but they are good people, with a few mistakes made here and there.
      You are good, too, so be nice.
      :)

      • StewBalls on 15/06/2016 - 20:08
        +2

        You'll note that I've refrained from comment on the topic here, and I shall continue to do so, since I've said my piece on the matter elsewhere; however, I do agree with the comments which I have upvoted.

  • Randxyz123 on 15/06/2016 - 11:34
    +8

    Ok first off you aren't going to be homeless. Don't be so dramatic….

    You can afford to pay rent/bills to your best mate so if for some reason if you still haven't made up your mind you can go to a hotel and sleep there.

    I'd say move to Mauritius. You've been posting about this for a while. If you are bored then go back to Australia and live with your mate.

    What do/did you do for a job?

    • [Deactivated] on 15/06/2016 - 18:59

      I'm a scientist.

      • Randxyz123 on 16/06/2016 - 00:54
        +3

        Ok… Not an easy job to find not impossible however.

        Have you tried contacting universities over there about your field?

        My advice still stands. Go over there at least to help them settle. I'm sure your wife will appreciate it.

        • Lucky13 on 16/06/2016 - 03:34
          +3

          Actually going over there to help them settle in isn't such a bad idea. Only if you've got the spare cash to do so though and you can get the time off work ok and overall it'll be reasonably easy to do. I guess your wife and kids will have her parents there, but it would be nice if you're there for such a scary and big step for the family. Also it would give you a glimpse of what life might be like when you're there and also when you're there you might get a better idea of job prospects and find job opportunities that you wouldn't have found online etc from Australia.

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