Hi parents. We just have our 3 week old now and mentally, we’re really overwhelmed and struggling on the lifestyle change. We are sleep deprived (hard to calm down our bub between 3-5am) and really tired on catching up on our daily chores. Wife is still struggling on bf (pain and soreness) and leg pain from birthing.
My inlaws tried to visit us few weeks ago (helping on cuddling and letting bub sleep) but we felt more tired attending them (cleaning and preparing etc) though, we can nap during day time.
Now I’m thinking if I let my parents go visit us this Oct or maybe wait until bub is 5-6 months old. Just worried about wife’s mental health when I go back to work as we feel alone at home.
We also have some friends support which are also parents but sometimes we cannot see them as their kids are sick. Just seeking for personal experiences from you guys on which stage our scenario will likely improve? Cheers
Don't make decisions now, planning sounds unnecessarily stressful. You just don't know how the baby or you will be. As time goes on it will become clearer what you can and can't do. Figure it out then.
At three weeks there's no routine yet, just a constant grind. You've just got to hang in there. Give each other lots of grace, get sleep when you can, take all the help offered, and keep surviving. You are starting the hardest thing you'll ever do (probably), so you're not a failure if you feel like you're struggling. Everyone does.
At six to eight weeks, things get easier because they give a little back - looking at you and smiling a little.
With our kids, it was at maybe six months when we really started feeling more like ourselves. It took about 18 months for my wife's body to recover (including hormone wise which has a big effect on libido).
It's a long slow road but kids are freaking awesome and worth it. It just won't feel like that for awhile. :)
You got this.